Intymumas mums nuolat siejamas su seksualiniais santykiais, jis jau seniai įgavo paslaugų prekės statusą. Manau, kad akivaizdu, jog tai ką galima pirkti ar parduoti, tikrai negalima vadinti intymumu. Prisiminkime psichologijos klasiką: seksualinis santykis gali patenkinti tik biologinius - seksualinius poreikius, o intymumas, kuris gimsta tarp dviejų žmonių, tenkina absoliučiai kitus poreikius. Tai socialinis poreikis emociniam artumui ir saugumui, intymumas sukuria erdvę labai artimam bendravimui, giliam tarpusavio supratimui ir sielų susitikimui. Seksas gali atnešti tik fiziologinį malonumą, o intymumas suteikia emocinį, jausminį ar net dvasinį pasitenkinimą. Jeigu pora patiria tik fiziologinį malonumą, ilgainiui jie gali nejausti didėjančio santykių artumo ir ryšio. Kai pora sukuria intymumo stebuklą, santykiai nuolat atsinaujina ir gilėja.
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Saturday, December 10, 2011
Thursday, November 17, 2011
Pergalės
"Juk visi nori būti pirmi arba bent jau kažkur šalia, net ir tie, kurie labiausiai tai neigia. Tačiau visur pirmas nebūsite, išsirinkite vieną sritį, kurioje esate stipriausias. Žmogus turi švęsti pergales savo gyvenime, nes tam gyvenimas ir duotas, tačiau reikia atskirti, kurios pergalės jums ir kurios ne."
http://www.success.lt/straipsniu-autoriai/pinigai/milijonieriai-20-metu-veliau
http://www.success.lt/straipsniu-autoriai/pinigai/milijonieriai-20-metu-veliau
Pinigai panašiau į seksą ar sportą?
Populiariosios psichologijos knygos jas skaitantiems pamažu suformuoja įsitikinimą, jog viskas ką reikia daryti norint uždirbti pinigų, tai dirbti mėgstamą darbą. Svarbiausia jausti begalinį malonumą, aistrą, atsidavimą. Svarbu pasinerti į darbą visu savimi ir palaima bei pinigai užlies visą kūną iki kaklo. Mėgstamas darbas, tai lyg seksas. Svarbu rasti tinkamą partnerį ir su juo būti nuo ryto iki vakaro, tada visa kita išsispręs savaime. Viliojantis požiūris, tačiau man tenka matyti dvi problemas. Kaip rasti tą svajonių partnerį t.y. svajonių darbą, kai jų yra tiek mažai, antra net ir jį radus nėra jokios garantijos, jog sudursite galą su galu.
Todėl man pinigų uždirbimas yra daug panašesnis į sportą. Pirmiausiai reikia prisiversti nueiti į sporto salę, reikia pasistengti daugiau, pakentėti, paprakaituoti, kartais truputi ir paskauda, tačiau vėliau laukia malonus atsikvėpimas. Raumenys ir sąmonė pailsi ir tuomet sustiprėję imasi dar didesnių darbų. Kuo didesnis krūvis, tuo stipresni tampame.
Pinigai yra verslas. O verslas kaip sportas, nes tai - galios žaidimai, kas yra stipresnis, tas ir nugali. Kitaip papraščiausiai nebūna. Sporte nugali ne tas, kuris tuo metu jaučia didesnį malonumą, o tas, kuris daugiau treniravosi ir įdėjo daugiau pastangų. Suviliotas pirmojo požiūrio aš kelis metus galvojau, kad kuo didesnį malonumą jausiu dirbdamas mėgstamą darbą, tuo daugiau uždirbsiu. Tačiau vėliau supratau, jog tai, kad jaučiu malonumą, dar nereiškia, kad ir kiti jį jaučia kartu su manimi. Kodėl žmonės turėtų mokėti pinigus už mano malonumą? Pastebėjau, jog daug žmonių blaškosi tarp dviejų krypčių. Ar ieškoti to to išsvajotojo darbo, kur jausiu begalinį malonumą ar čia kur esu paprakaituoti ir įdėti daugiau pastangų. Žinoma, įdėti pastangas nėra taip smagu, kaip jausti begalinį malonumą. Kol galvojame, jog pinigai yra kaip seksas, reikia susirasti tinkamą partnerį ir visos problemos išsispręs savaime, tol mes vengiame sunkumų, vis ieškome būdų kaip nedirbti, kaip tuos sunkumus apeiti, nes juk viskas turi būti malonu. Tačiau jei pakeičiame požiūri, jog pinigų uždirbimas yra sportas ir čia kartais būna sunku, tada darbai eina kaip per sviestą be jokių vidinių atsikalbinėjimų.
Žmonės dažnai bando atmesti idėją, jog dėl pinigų reikia kovoti, kaip sporte kovojama dėl medalių. Pažiūrėkite į savo darbo dieną per sporto prizmę, į kokį sportą būtų panašiausias jūsų darbas? Kaip atrodytumėte jei būtumėte sportininkas? Ar išbėgate į aikštelę anksti ryte pirmas, ar treniruojatės iki uždusimo, ar kandat priešininkui į blauzdą, kai teisėjai nemato? Kaip tauta, darbe mes labiausiai panašūs į šachmatininkus, kurie tyliai sėdi prie stalo ir kažką stumdo iš vieno laukelio į kitą. Labai intelektualu, bet labai nepelninga. Palyginkite geriausio pasaulyje šachmatininko ir geriausio pasaulyje futbolininko atlyginimus ir suprasite apie ką eina kalba. Vien intelekto neužtenka, reikia kovingumo, jėgos, drąsos. Turėtume tapti regbininkais arba boksininkais. Nesakau, kad turime daužytis vienas su kitu, konkuruokime su pasauliu, gaminkime, kurkime, eksportuokime. Siųskime užsienio konkurentus į nokdauną, pasaulis yra pilnas pinigų, nereikia dėl jų konkuruoti su kaimynu. Pasaulyje yra tiek pinigų, kurių su visai derivatyvais jau suskaičiuoti niekas nebegali. O mes sėdime sau nenorėdami užsiiminėti nei seksu, nei sportu ir, žinoma, ieškome ką apkaltinti už tai, jog mums jau nieko nesinori.
Jei dirbtume taip, kaip sportuojame ir į darbą įdėtume tiek pat energijos gal produktyvumu aplenktume net Lenkiją ar Estiją. Žmonės stengiasi išvengti konkurencinės kovos ir tai priveda prie požiūrio, jog turi „laimėti draugystė“. Konkurencijos vengimo psichologines priežastis panagrinėsime kitą kartą. Galite turėti kokius tik norite įsitikinimus apie darbą ir pinigus, tačiau taisyklės tai nepaneigia - pinigai ateina laimėtojui, o ne tam, kuris jaučia didelį malonumą dirbdamas. Žmonėms reikia pridėtinės vertės, o ne kažkieno ekstazės. Išmokite įveikdami sunkias užduotis jausti malonumą dėl to, jog stiprėjate. Malonumas mus silpnina, skausmas – stiprina. Kodėl sporte mes sunkumus galime iškęsti, o darbe galvojame, kad viskas turi būti kuo lengviau ir maloniau. Tai tas pats kas galvoti, jog po lengvos treniruotės užaugs labai dideli raumenys.
Ieškantieji savo mėgstamo darbo, kartais suserga talismano sindromu. Tai viso pasaulio kultūrose iš kartos į kartą perduodamas įsitikinimas, jog viskas ko reikia gyvenimo sėkmei, tai rasti kažkokį stebuklingą daiktą, kuris tau padės valdyti pasaulį arba suteiks antgamtinių galių. Viso pasaulio pasakose rasite herojus ieškančius skraidančio kilimo, burtų lazdelės, stebuklingo išminties akmens, nematomo apsiausto, stebuklingos skrybėlės, adatos kiaušinyje, Aladino lempos, laimės žiburio, paslėpto lobio. Holivudo karta užaugo ieškodama gralio taurės, pandoros skrynios, priešnuodžio, kuris padės sustabdyti žmoniją naikinantį virusą, branduolinės galvutės, juodo lagaminėlio su raudonu mygtuku, naujos mikroschemos, slaptų duomenų ir t.t.
Tikime, jog kažkur yra kažkas kas išspręs visas mūsų problemas. Kai buvome maži, tikėjome, jog visas mūsų problemas išspręs mama, kai paaugome pradėjome galvoti, kad visas mūsų problemas išspręs pinigai. O kuomet susipažinome su saviugdos knygomis, patikėjome, jog visas problemas išspręs mylimas darbas. Tačiau, kad ir koks mylimas darbas bebūtų visvien reikės stengtis, kovoti ir laimėti.
Mes problemų sprendimų ieškome išorėje, tai yra vakarietiškas mąstymo bruožas. Mes esame įpratę manyti, jog kažkur yra pinigai, pelningas darbas, sėkmingi žmonės tik jie yra pasislėpę ir reikia kažkaip juos surasti. Kai juos rasime mūsų talentas atsiskleis pats, visi pastebės mūsų vidinį grožį ir už jo demonstravimą mums mokės pinigus. Nuo sėkmės mus skiria tik mūsų vidinės kliūtys, išorinių kliūčių nėra, tačiau reikia daug sąmoningumo tam suprasti.
Žinoma, daugybė skaitytojų jau trina pirštus ruošdamiesi rašyti komentarą, jog seksas irgi gali būti sportas. Kokie mes visi protingi. Taip – gali. Kuomet darbe yra daug malonumo tada ir tie sunkumai labai maži ir lengvi atrodo. Straipsnio tikslas - paaiškinti ir motyvuoti. Jei norite pinigų, reikės netik dirbti, bet ir laimėti. O norint laimėti, sunkių ir nemalonių darbų visuomet bus. Sporte norint nugalėti, reikia treniruotis. Tad nesileiskite užliūliuojami melodijos, jog darbas turi būti nesibaigiantis orgazmas. Jis gali būti ir sunkus, tačiau sunkių užduočių atlikimas irgi teikia daugybę malonumo.
Aivaras Pranarauskas
http://www.success.lt/straipsniu-autoriai/pinigai/pinigai-panasiau-i-seksa-ar-sporta
Todėl man pinigų uždirbimas yra daug panašesnis į sportą. Pirmiausiai reikia prisiversti nueiti į sporto salę, reikia pasistengti daugiau, pakentėti, paprakaituoti, kartais truputi ir paskauda, tačiau vėliau laukia malonus atsikvėpimas. Raumenys ir sąmonė pailsi ir tuomet sustiprėję imasi dar didesnių darbų. Kuo didesnis krūvis, tuo stipresni tampame.
Pinigai yra verslas. O verslas kaip sportas, nes tai - galios žaidimai, kas yra stipresnis, tas ir nugali. Kitaip papraščiausiai nebūna. Sporte nugali ne tas, kuris tuo metu jaučia didesnį malonumą, o tas, kuris daugiau treniravosi ir įdėjo daugiau pastangų. Suviliotas pirmojo požiūrio aš kelis metus galvojau, kad kuo didesnį malonumą jausiu dirbdamas mėgstamą darbą, tuo daugiau uždirbsiu. Tačiau vėliau supratau, jog tai, kad jaučiu malonumą, dar nereiškia, kad ir kiti jį jaučia kartu su manimi. Kodėl žmonės turėtų mokėti pinigus už mano malonumą? Pastebėjau, jog daug žmonių blaškosi tarp dviejų krypčių. Ar ieškoti to to išsvajotojo darbo, kur jausiu begalinį malonumą ar čia kur esu paprakaituoti ir įdėti daugiau pastangų. Žinoma, įdėti pastangas nėra taip smagu, kaip jausti begalinį malonumą. Kol galvojame, jog pinigai yra kaip seksas, reikia susirasti tinkamą partnerį ir visos problemos išsispręs savaime, tol mes vengiame sunkumų, vis ieškome būdų kaip nedirbti, kaip tuos sunkumus apeiti, nes juk viskas turi būti malonu. Tačiau jei pakeičiame požiūri, jog pinigų uždirbimas yra sportas ir čia kartais būna sunku, tada darbai eina kaip per sviestą be jokių vidinių atsikalbinėjimų.
Žmonės dažnai bando atmesti idėją, jog dėl pinigų reikia kovoti, kaip sporte kovojama dėl medalių. Pažiūrėkite į savo darbo dieną per sporto prizmę, į kokį sportą būtų panašiausias jūsų darbas? Kaip atrodytumėte jei būtumėte sportininkas? Ar išbėgate į aikštelę anksti ryte pirmas, ar treniruojatės iki uždusimo, ar kandat priešininkui į blauzdą, kai teisėjai nemato? Kaip tauta, darbe mes labiausiai panašūs į šachmatininkus, kurie tyliai sėdi prie stalo ir kažką stumdo iš vieno laukelio į kitą. Labai intelektualu, bet labai nepelninga. Palyginkite geriausio pasaulyje šachmatininko ir geriausio pasaulyje futbolininko atlyginimus ir suprasite apie ką eina kalba. Vien intelekto neužtenka, reikia kovingumo, jėgos, drąsos. Turėtume tapti regbininkais arba boksininkais. Nesakau, kad turime daužytis vienas su kitu, konkuruokime su pasauliu, gaminkime, kurkime, eksportuokime. Siųskime užsienio konkurentus į nokdauną, pasaulis yra pilnas pinigų, nereikia dėl jų konkuruoti su kaimynu. Pasaulyje yra tiek pinigų, kurių su visai derivatyvais jau suskaičiuoti niekas nebegali. O mes sėdime sau nenorėdami užsiiminėti nei seksu, nei sportu ir, žinoma, ieškome ką apkaltinti už tai, jog mums jau nieko nesinori.
Jei dirbtume taip, kaip sportuojame ir į darbą įdėtume tiek pat energijos gal produktyvumu aplenktume net Lenkiją ar Estiją. Žmonės stengiasi išvengti konkurencinės kovos ir tai priveda prie požiūrio, jog turi „laimėti draugystė“. Konkurencijos vengimo psichologines priežastis panagrinėsime kitą kartą. Galite turėti kokius tik norite įsitikinimus apie darbą ir pinigus, tačiau taisyklės tai nepaneigia - pinigai ateina laimėtojui, o ne tam, kuris jaučia didelį malonumą dirbdamas. Žmonėms reikia pridėtinės vertės, o ne kažkieno ekstazės. Išmokite įveikdami sunkias užduotis jausti malonumą dėl to, jog stiprėjate. Malonumas mus silpnina, skausmas – stiprina. Kodėl sporte mes sunkumus galime iškęsti, o darbe galvojame, kad viskas turi būti kuo lengviau ir maloniau. Tai tas pats kas galvoti, jog po lengvos treniruotės užaugs labai dideli raumenys.
Ieškantieji savo mėgstamo darbo, kartais suserga talismano sindromu. Tai viso pasaulio kultūrose iš kartos į kartą perduodamas įsitikinimas, jog viskas ko reikia gyvenimo sėkmei, tai rasti kažkokį stebuklingą daiktą, kuris tau padės valdyti pasaulį arba suteiks antgamtinių galių. Viso pasaulio pasakose rasite herojus ieškančius skraidančio kilimo, burtų lazdelės, stebuklingo išminties akmens, nematomo apsiausto, stebuklingos skrybėlės, adatos kiaušinyje, Aladino lempos, laimės žiburio, paslėpto lobio. Holivudo karta užaugo ieškodama gralio taurės, pandoros skrynios, priešnuodžio, kuris padės sustabdyti žmoniją naikinantį virusą, branduolinės galvutės, juodo lagaminėlio su raudonu mygtuku, naujos mikroschemos, slaptų duomenų ir t.t.
Tikime, jog kažkur yra kažkas kas išspręs visas mūsų problemas. Kai buvome maži, tikėjome, jog visas mūsų problemas išspręs mama, kai paaugome pradėjome galvoti, kad visas mūsų problemas išspręs pinigai. O kuomet susipažinome su saviugdos knygomis, patikėjome, jog visas problemas išspręs mylimas darbas. Tačiau, kad ir koks mylimas darbas bebūtų visvien reikės stengtis, kovoti ir laimėti.
Mes problemų sprendimų ieškome išorėje, tai yra vakarietiškas mąstymo bruožas. Mes esame įpratę manyti, jog kažkur yra pinigai, pelningas darbas, sėkmingi žmonės tik jie yra pasislėpę ir reikia kažkaip juos surasti. Kai juos rasime mūsų talentas atsiskleis pats, visi pastebės mūsų vidinį grožį ir už jo demonstravimą mums mokės pinigus. Nuo sėkmės mus skiria tik mūsų vidinės kliūtys, išorinių kliūčių nėra, tačiau reikia daug sąmoningumo tam suprasti.
Žinoma, daugybė skaitytojų jau trina pirštus ruošdamiesi rašyti komentarą, jog seksas irgi gali būti sportas. Kokie mes visi protingi. Taip – gali. Kuomet darbe yra daug malonumo tada ir tie sunkumai labai maži ir lengvi atrodo. Straipsnio tikslas - paaiškinti ir motyvuoti. Jei norite pinigų, reikės netik dirbti, bet ir laimėti. O norint laimėti, sunkių ir nemalonių darbų visuomet bus. Sporte norint nugalėti, reikia treniruotis. Tad nesileiskite užliūliuojami melodijos, jog darbas turi būti nesibaigiantis orgazmas. Jis gali būti ir sunkus, tačiau sunkių užduočių atlikimas irgi teikia daugybę malonumo.
Aivaras Pranarauskas
http://www.success.lt/straipsniu-autoriai/pinigai/pinigai-panasiau-i-seksa-ar-sporta
Friday, November 4, 2011
5 Ways to Work With Fear
I’ve watched hundreds of brilliant women and men not do what they are meant to do in this world — not share their voices, not ask for what they deserve, not take the risks involved in creating their knock-the-ball-out-of-the-park life — because of fear.
We all need fear-slayers, tools that help us quiet and overcome our fears. Here are five of my favorites:
1. Create a character. Create a character that symbolizes the voice of fear within you. Maybe she’s a frail recluse or an eight-year-old bully or a fire-breathing dragon. Maybe it’s the lion from “The Wizard of Oz” or the Wicked Witch or the Wizard himself. Pick a character that illustrates how the voice of fear feels in you, and name your character. When you hear the voice of fear, greet it: “Oh, Cruella, I see you’ve come to visit. Hello.”
Why does this work? Creating a character helps you separate the real you from the part of you that’s afraid. Your fears come from that instinctual part of the brain that seeks to avoid risk at any cost–not from your core self, your inner wisdom, or your dreams. Naming the voice of fear, visualizing it as a character and observing it helps you get back in charge.
2. Follow the fear through to the end game. Fear holds us hostage, making threats that if you do X, a disastrous outcome will occur. The remedy is to imagine how you’d handle that outcome, and evaluate just how bad it would really be.
This involves asking “so what?” again and again. If, for example, you’re afraid that your request for a raise will be turned down, ask yourself, “So if I was turned down, so what? Then what?”
You’ll probably hear yourself thinking something like, “Well, I’d be disappointed, and I’d think about whether that means I need to change jobs. I guess it wouldn’t be the end of the world.” You’ve just taken a great deal of power away from your fear.
Or, you might find this outcome still feels super scary, and your answer to the question is “I’d feel horribly embarrassed around my boss every time I saw her!” Then ask the question again: “So I’d feel embarrassed and awkward, then what?” Keep following the fear through to the endgame. You’ll find your resiliency and sense of perspective as you keep asking, “So what?”
3. Ask, “Is it true?” Whatever the little voice of fear is saying, it’s probably not true. The fearful part of us is irrational and overprotective. It might be saying you are likely to fall flat on your face if you take a risk, or that no one will like your ideas. It might be saying that moving to a new city could ruin your children, or choosing the wrong job could wreck havoc on your life. When you hear fear-based thoughts, ask yourself, “Is what this voice is saying true?” or, in Byron Katie’s approach, “Can I be absolutely sure that this thought is true?” The answer to these questions — especially the latter one — is most often “no.”
4. Connect to love. Here’s the very cool thing about our human consciousness. We can’t be in a state of fear and one of love at the same time. They can’t coexist. Each one blots out the other. When we are really connected to that mysterious energy that is love, we connect to a softness, a safety, a comfort, a healing. Fear vanishes.
So when you are stuck in fear, reconnect to love. Listening to a favorite song, doing something you love, focusing on a picture of a loved one, or connecting with nature are all good ways to do this. Many people find that a short meditation on their own breathing or reaching out to a higher power in prayer reconnects them to love. Giving — time, money, a gift or a heartfelt compliment — to another person also connects us to love.
Use whatever process works for you. You’ll know you’ve reconnected to love when you feel that sense of harmony and comfort and softness returning.
If you aren’t sure what helps you easily and swiftly reconnect to love, start experimenting. All of us need a set of strategies for connecting to love when we get fearful, anxious, resentful or off balance.
5. Let fear be your traveling companion. Much of the time we can soften or even entirely lift our fears using the tools above, but sometimes, fear persists. Then it’s time for this tool: let fear be your traveling companion. Let it be there, but not in control. Let it be there, but don’t take direction from it or stop moving forward because of it.
This is a skill. It’s a skill to learn to act in the face of fear, to allow it to be present but not to interfere.
You know when you are driving on the highway, and right next to you, one lane over, there’s some guy hanging out the window, keeping pace along side of you? He’s not in your way but he’s in your field of vision?
Think of fear that way: as the guy in the lane next to you. You are in the driver’s seat, in your own lane, moving forward. He’s next to you, not blocking you but just there, somewhat irritating, palpably present. The ride would feel more enjoyable and free if he wasn’t there, but you are getting to your destination just fine anyway.
Learn to walk with fear this way — as if it’s your uninvited traveling companion — intrusive, but not in the way.
www.soulfulliving.com
http://11thesunnyside11.wordpress.com/2011/11/03/5-ways-to-work-with-fear-2/
We all need fear-slayers, tools that help us quiet and overcome our fears. Here are five of my favorites:
1. Create a character. Create a character that symbolizes the voice of fear within you. Maybe she’s a frail recluse or an eight-year-old bully or a fire-breathing dragon. Maybe it’s the lion from “The Wizard of Oz” or the Wicked Witch or the Wizard himself. Pick a character that illustrates how the voice of fear feels in you, and name your character. When you hear the voice of fear, greet it: “Oh, Cruella, I see you’ve come to visit. Hello.”
Why does this work? Creating a character helps you separate the real you from the part of you that’s afraid. Your fears come from that instinctual part of the brain that seeks to avoid risk at any cost–not from your core self, your inner wisdom, or your dreams. Naming the voice of fear, visualizing it as a character and observing it helps you get back in charge.
2. Follow the fear through to the end game. Fear holds us hostage, making threats that if you do X, a disastrous outcome will occur. The remedy is to imagine how you’d handle that outcome, and evaluate just how bad it would really be.
This involves asking “so what?” again and again. If, for example, you’re afraid that your request for a raise will be turned down, ask yourself, “So if I was turned down, so what? Then what?”
You’ll probably hear yourself thinking something like, “Well, I’d be disappointed, and I’d think about whether that means I need to change jobs. I guess it wouldn’t be the end of the world.” You’ve just taken a great deal of power away from your fear.
Or, you might find this outcome still feels super scary, and your answer to the question is “I’d feel horribly embarrassed around my boss every time I saw her!” Then ask the question again: “So I’d feel embarrassed and awkward, then what?” Keep following the fear through to the endgame. You’ll find your resiliency and sense of perspective as you keep asking, “So what?”
3. Ask, “Is it true?” Whatever the little voice of fear is saying, it’s probably not true. The fearful part of us is irrational and overprotective. It might be saying you are likely to fall flat on your face if you take a risk, or that no one will like your ideas. It might be saying that moving to a new city could ruin your children, or choosing the wrong job could wreck havoc on your life. When you hear fear-based thoughts, ask yourself, “Is what this voice is saying true?” or, in Byron Katie’s approach, “Can I be absolutely sure that this thought is true?” The answer to these questions — especially the latter one — is most often “no.”
4. Connect to love. Here’s the very cool thing about our human consciousness. We can’t be in a state of fear and one of love at the same time. They can’t coexist. Each one blots out the other. When we are really connected to that mysterious energy that is love, we connect to a softness, a safety, a comfort, a healing. Fear vanishes.
So when you are stuck in fear, reconnect to love. Listening to a favorite song, doing something you love, focusing on a picture of a loved one, or connecting with nature are all good ways to do this. Many people find that a short meditation on their own breathing or reaching out to a higher power in prayer reconnects them to love. Giving — time, money, a gift or a heartfelt compliment — to another person also connects us to love.
Use whatever process works for you. You’ll know you’ve reconnected to love when you feel that sense of harmony and comfort and softness returning.
If you aren’t sure what helps you easily and swiftly reconnect to love, start experimenting. All of us need a set of strategies for connecting to love when we get fearful, anxious, resentful or off balance.
5. Let fear be your traveling companion. Much of the time we can soften or even entirely lift our fears using the tools above, but sometimes, fear persists. Then it’s time for this tool: let fear be your traveling companion. Let it be there, but not in control. Let it be there, but don’t take direction from it or stop moving forward because of it.
This is a skill. It’s a skill to learn to act in the face of fear, to allow it to be present but not to interfere.
You know when you are driving on the highway, and right next to you, one lane over, there’s some guy hanging out the window, keeping pace along side of you? He’s not in your way but he’s in your field of vision?
Think of fear that way: as the guy in the lane next to you. You are in the driver’s seat, in your own lane, moving forward. He’s next to you, not blocking you but just there, somewhat irritating, palpably present. The ride would feel more enjoyable and free if he wasn’t there, but you are getting to your destination just fine anyway.
Learn to walk with fear this way — as if it’s your uninvited traveling companion — intrusive, but not in the way.
www.soulfulliving.com
http://11thesunnyside11.wordpress.com/2011/11/03/5-ways-to-work-with-fear-2/
Wednesday, November 2, 2011
Stiprios Mintys Virsta Pinigais
Kalbant apie pinigus realistai - praktikai yra linkę nurašyti minčių pasaulio svarbą, o teoretikai - mąstytojai vargsta darydami sprendimus, gaudami rezultatus ir bandydami daugiau uždirbti, nes tvarkytis praktiniame pasaulyje daug sunkiau nei teoriniame.
Paprastai mes skiriame dvi būsenas: nematerialu ir materialu. Mano mintys, emocijos, norai yra nematerialu. Mano namas, mašina, stalas, mėsa parduotuvėje yra materialu. Viena priežasčių kodėl žmonės neuždirba daugiau yra ta, jog jų mintys ir (pasi)tikėjimas, kad galima tai padaryti yra tiesiog per silpnas. Jie nesupranta, jog nuo minčių ir (pasi)tikėjimo stiprumo priklauso sėkmė materialiame pasaulyje. Nematerialus pasaulis taip pat kaip ir materialus gali būti skirtingo stiprumo. Pavyzdžiui, vinis yra daug tvirtesnis negu kiaušinis. Abu yra materija, tačiau tvirtumas skiriasi. Mintys irgi gali būti skirtingo tvirtumo, vieno žmogaus pasitikėjimas savimi gali būti geležinis, o kitas gali nuo menkiausio bakstelėjimo sudužti kaip kiaušinis. Minčių stiprumas gali nuolat keistis, o kuomet šios sustiprėja iki reikiamos ribos, jos labai lengvai pradeda virsti veiksmais ir rezultatais.
Pavyzdys apie tai kaip keičiasi noro stiprumas. Norite įsigyti batus, iš pradžių noras silpnas – 2 balai. Vėliau, kuomet pamatote patinkantį modelį, noras sustiprėja – 3 balai. O kuomet pamatote nuolaidą nusižiūrėtiems batams – noras jau 4 balai, noras jau pakankamai didelis, jog padarytumėte veiksmą ir nusipirktumėte batus. Pinigai iškeliavo, batai atkeliavo. Įvyko realūs pokyčiai materijoje, vien dėl to, jog noras ir su juo susijusios mintys tapo stiprios. Jei norite, kad kitų žmonių pinigai atkeliautų jums, tikėjimas savimi ir tuo ką darote turi turėti kuo daugiau balų. Noras gali būti silpnas ir nešiojamas galvoje daugybę metų, o gali būti toks stiprus, jog jį įgyvendiname iškart. Savo planais galime tikėti truputi ir nešiotis juos metų metus, o galime jais tikėti taip stipriai ir ryškiai, jog viską metę einame ir juos įgyvendiname.
Dažnai (pasi)tikėjimas yra paremtas išorinėmis aplinkybėmis. Pamatėme kažkokią nišą verslui, pamatėme, jog yra didelė paklausa, pasiūlėme rinkai produktą, kuris buvo labai gerai priimtas. Kiekvienas šių faktorių stiprina mūsų tikėjimą ir skatina veikti. Tačiau vienam žmogui šie faktoriai gali sukelti didžiulę motyvaciją ir stiprinti mintis, kitas gali likti visiškai abejingas, jo mintys taip ir liko silpnos. Jis ras šimtus pasiteisinimų, kodėl planas nesuveiks.
Daug knygų parašyta apie tai, kaip svarbu keisti savo mintis. Tačiau minties pakeisti neužtenka, kad gyvenime prasidėtų pokyčiai. Mintys turi būti tiek aiškios ir stiprios, jog prasidėtų nuolatinis sprendimų darymas. Kuomet mintys susiprėja, išnyksta abejonės, prasideda sprendimai, rezultatai, tada pradeda atsirasti ir pinigai. O su pinigais iš šios tarpnės būsenos jau lengvai pereiname galutinai į materialumo fazę, galite pirkti daiktus, kuriuos norite, keliauti ten kur norite, veikti ką norite ir t.t.
Taigi yra specifinė tarpinė būsena, kurioje nematerialios mintys pradeda virsti materija: rezultatais ir pinigais. Kaip kokioje cheminėje reakcijoje reikia pasiekti tam tikrą temperatūrą, kad medžiagos sureaguotų, taip mūsų galvoje mintys turi tiek sustiprėti, kad mes kaip raketos eitume ir pradėtume daryti tai, ką reikia daryti.
Minties stiprumą galite subjektyviai įvertinti 5 balų sistemoje.
1 balas. Turiu kažkokią mintį, bet nelabai ja tikiu, nesigilinu, net nežinau ar ji teisinga. Tokį žmogų išgirsime sakant – „duokite darbą su geru atlyginimu ir nekvaršinkite man galvos su visokiomis filosofijomis“.
2 balai. Turiu minčių, žinau, kad jos teisingos, gal taip ir reikėtų gyventi ir daryti, bet vistiek turiu kažkokių abejonių. Kartais susimąstau, jog kažką gal reiktų keisti, gal reiktų kažką bandyti daugiau daryti, bet nelabai aišku kaip ką daryti. Neturiu tam didelės energijos ir noro. Žinoma, dėl savo neveiklumo yra ir didelis noras kažkam suversti kaltę.
3 balai. Turiu minčių, žinau, kad jos teisingos, daug minčių savyje jau pakeičiau, kaltų neieškau, žinau, jog pats esu už viską atsakingas. Žinau, ką ir kaip daryti, stengiuosi taip gyventi. Turiu noro, abejonių kaip ir nėra, bet vis nesigauna, vis grįžtu prie senųjų įpročių, rezultatai labai vidutiniai. Daug į save investuoju, daug skaitau ir domiuosi, turiu didžiulį žinių bagažą, bet finansinė sėkmė vis neaplanko.
4 balai. Turiu aiškų žinojimą ką ir kaip daryti, darau, gaunu rezultatus, kaupiu patirtį. Gaunasi pamažu vis geriau ir geriau. Kartais suprantu daugiau, kartais mažiau, tiesiog dirbu, bandau ir viskas gyvenime yra gerai. Įgyvendinu daug savo idėjų.
5 balai. Absoliučiai tikiu, tuo ką darau ir tuo ką žinau, mano (pasi)tikėjimas toks stiprus, jog lengvai savo idėjomis apkrėčiu kitus. Turiu didelę motyvaciją ir energiją savo sukurtiems planams įgyvendinti. Viskas gaunasi natūraliai ir savaime. Galiu padaryti tokius darbus, kurie kitiems atrodo absoliučiai neįmanomi.
Kuomet iš 3 balų pereiname į 4 balus jau prasideda veiksmai ir rezultatai. Svarbiausiomis savybėmis tampa atkaklumas, valia, užsispyrimas, noras nugalėti, (pasi)tikėjimas savimi. Veiksmus juk galima daryti ir be visų šių savybių, bet tada gausite vidutinius rezultatus, trūks motyvacijos. Juk su 1,2,3 balų stiprumo mintimis žmonės irgi kažką dirbą ir veikia, tačiau prie geresnių nei vidutinių rezultatų tai nepriveda. Sunkiausia gyventi žmonėms su 3 balų stiprumo mintimis, nes jų mąstymas yra teisingas, jie žino, kaip viskas turėtų būti, bet tam tikri vidiniai blokai, kažkaip vis neleidžia pradėti daryti reikiamų sprendimų. Jie jaučia, jog yra kažkur visai šalia, bet vis negauna tų rezultatų, kurių norėtų.
Keletas pavyzdžių. Geriau žvirblis rankoje, nei briedis girioje. Tuo liaudis nori pasakyti, jog geriau truputis absoliučiai užtikrinto tikėjimo, nei daug silpno tikėjimo ir nežinios. Visi žino, jog geriau uždirbti mažiau, bet užtikrintai, negu daugiau, bet neaišku kada, kur ir kaip. Daugelis žmonių yra tiesiog nepajėgūs ištverti nežinomybės, todėl gyvenime nerizikuoja ir geriau renkasi tai kas aišku ir patikrinta. Patekus į nežinomybę, jų minčių stiprumas krenta iki 1-2 balų ir jie kaip šiaudo griebiasi net pačio menkiausio užtikrintumo. Finansų magistrai važiuoja vasarą į Angliją braškių skaičiuoti, kad tik būtų užtikrintumas arba kaip sakoma, „svarbu užsikabinti“. „Užsikabinti gyvenime“ neužtenka, nes labai tikėtina, jog po to ir liksite taip „kabėti“ ilgam laikui. Jei mintys ir tikėjimas yra silpni, jie ir liks silpni. Retas, kuris „pakabėjęs“ sustiprėja ir eina daryti tai, ką iš tiesų nori. Žinių kiekis dar nereiškia minčių stiprumo. Galite būti tūkstantį knygų perskaitęs, tačiau tai nereiškia, jog turite vidinės jėgos ir mintys yra tiek stiprios, jog virstų norimais rezultatais.
Jei pasiūlo darbą su aiškiu atlygiu, turime 5 balų užtikrintumą. Mintys drąsios ir mes nedvejodami imamės darbo. Kai imamės patys kažką daryti savarankiškai, daug priklauso nuo mūsų sąmonės stiprumo. Jei esate garantuotas, jog idėja pavyks, turite klientų, kasdien dirbate ir reikalai juda į priekį - sąmonės stiprumas ir (pasi)tikėjimas aukštesni. Jei pradedate kažkokią naują veiklą, nesate tiek užtikrintas, (pasi)tikėjimas mažesnis. Jei greitų rezultatų nėra, kankina abejonės ar verta toliau investuoti savo laiką ir energiją. Pradedate galvoti gal užsiimti kažkuo kitu. Jei kurį laiką nesiseka jūsų mintys gali kristi iki 2 balų ir jūs dar labiau pradedate abejoti tuo ką darote. Jei mintys ir toliau silpnės, galiausiai mesite tai ką darėte.
Pardavimų rezultatai taip pat priklauso nuo minčių stiprumo. Tarkime, esate atsakingas už įmonės eksportą. Jei mintys silpnos, niekuomet nepasieksite gerų rezultatų. Silpnos mintys reiškia, jog nepilnai (pasi)tikite tuo ką parduodate, savo gebėjimais, nejaukiai jaučiatės bendraudamas, nemokate minčių sukaupti darbui, jos nuolat išsiblaško. Stiprios mintys reiškia, jog taip (pasi)tikite savo planais, kad kasdien darote sprendimus, jūsų užtikrintumas persiduoda kolegoms. Prisiminkime, jog mintys turi būti tiek stiprios, kad generuotų sprendimus. Jei nesate šioje fazėje, turite pašalinti visas priežastis trukdančias ją pasiekti.
Atsikratykite visų abejonių, kurios silpnina (pasi)tikėjimą. Mintys turi būti geležinės, 5 balų stiprumo. Liaudis sako, jog reikia labai labai norėti ir tada turėsi. Tačiau vienos geležinės minties neužtenka. Kas iš to, jog turėsite vieną mintį iš geležies, o likusias 99 iš kefyro. Užtenka keletos silpnų minčių, kurias žmogus nešiojasi ir tai gali jam blokuoti daugybę dalykų. Pinigai visuomet pradeda atsirasti toje tarpinėje būsenoje tarp materijos ir nematerijos, pasistengkite, kad jūsų mintys ją pasiektų ir joje pasiliktų nesvarbu kaip klostosi išorinės aplinkybės. Atidžiai sekite savo silpnąsias mintis, stiprinkite jas. Pinigai keliauja ten, kur stiprios mintys ir pasitikėjimas.
Aivaras Pranarauskas
www.success.lt/straipsniu-autoriai/pinigai/stiprios-mintys-virsta-pinigais
Paprastai mes skiriame dvi būsenas: nematerialu ir materialu. Mano mintys, emocijos, norai yra nematerialu. Mano namas, mašina, stalas, mėsa parduotuvėje yra materialu. Viena priežasčių kodėl žmonės neuždirba daugiau yra ta, jog jų mintys ir (pasi)tikėjimas, kad galima tai padaryti yra tiesiog per silpnas. Jie nesupranta, jog nuo minčių ir (pasi)tikėjimo stiprumo priklauso sėkmė materialiame pasaulyje. Nematerialus pasaulis taip pat kaip ir materialus gali būti skirtingo stiprumo. Pavyzdžiui, vinis yra daug tvirtesnis negu kiaušinis. Abu yra materija, tačiau tvirtumas skiriasi. Mintys irgi gali būti skirtingo tvirtumo, vieno žmogaus pasitikėjimas savimi gali būti geležinis, o kitas gali nuo menkiausio bakstelėjimo sudužti kaip kiaušinis. Minčių stiprumas gali nuolat keistis, o kuomet šios sustiprėja iki reikiamos ribos, jos labai lengvai pradeda virsti veiksmais ir rezultatais.
Pavyzdys apie tai kaip keičiasi noro stiprumas. Norite įsigyti batus, iš pradžių noras silpnas – 2 balai. Vėliau, kuomet pamatote patinkantį modelį, noras sustiprėja – 3 balai. O kuomet pamatote nuolaidą nusižiūrėtiems batams – noras jau 4 balai, noras jau pakankamai didelis, jog padarytumėte veiksmą ir nusipirktumėte batus. Pinigai iškeliavo, batai atkeliavo. Įvyko realūs pokyčiai materijoje, vien dėl to, jog noras ir su juo susijusios mintys tapo stiprios. Jei norite, kad kitų žmonių pinigai atkeliautų jums, tikėjimas savimi ir tuo ką darote turi turėti kuo daugiau balų. Noras gali būti silpnas ir nešiojamas galvoje daugybę metų, o gali būti toks stiprus, jog jį įgyvendiname iškart. Savo planais galime tikėti truputi ir nešiotis juos metų metus, o galime jais tikėti taip stipriai ir ryškiai, jog viską metę einame ir juos įgyvendiname.
Dažnai (pasi)tikėjimas yra paremtas išorinėmis aplinkybėmis. Pamatėme kažkokią nišą verslui, pamatėme, jog yra didelė paklausa, pasiūlėme rinkai produktą, kuris buvo labai gerai priimtas. Kiekvienas šių faktorių stiprina mūsų tikėjimą ir skatina veikti. Tačiau vienam žmogui šie faktoriai gali sukelti didžiulę motyvaciją ir stiprinti mintis, kitas gali likti visiškai abejingas, jo mintys taip ir liko silpnos. Jis ras šimtus pasiteisinimų, kodėl planas nesuveiks.
Daug knygų parašyta apie tai, kaip svarbu keisti savo mintis. Tačiau minties pakeisti neužtenka, kad gyvenime prasidėtų pokyčiai. Mintys turi būti tiek aiškios ir stiprios, jog prasidėtų nuolatinis sprendimų darymas. Kuomet mintys susiprėja, išnyksta abejonės, prasideda sprendimai, rezultatai, tada pradeda atsirasti ir pinigai. O su pinigais iš šios tarpnės būsenos jau lengvai pereiname galutinai į materialumo fazę, galite pirkti daiktus, kuriuos norite, keliauti ten kur norite, veikti ką norite ir t.t.
Taigi yra specifinė tarpinė būsena, kurioje nematerialios mintys pradeda virsti materija: rezultatais ir pinigais. Kaip kokioje cheminėje reakcijoje reikia pasiekti tam tikrą temperatūrą, kad medžiagos sureaguotų, taip mūsų galvoje mintys turi tiek sustiprėti, kad mes kaip raketos eitume ir pradėtume daryti tai, ką reikia daryti.
Minties stiprumą galite subjektyviai įvertinti 5 balų sistemoje.
1 balas. Turiu kažkokią mintį, bet nelabai ja tikiu, nesigilinu, net nežinau ar ji teisinga. Tokį žmogų išgirsime sakant – „duokite darbą su geru atlyginimu ir nekvaršinkite man galvos su visokiomis filosofijomis“.
2 balai. Turiu minčių, žinau, kad jos teisingos, gal taip ir reikėtų gyventi ir daryti, bet vistiek turiu kažkokių abejonių. Kartais susimąstau, jog kažką gal reiktų keisti, gal reiktų kažką bandyti daugiau daryti, bet nelabai aišku kaip ką daryti. Neturiu tam didelės energijos ir noro. Žinoma, dėl savo neveiklumo yra ir didelis noras kažkam suversti kaltę.
3 balai. Turiu minčių, žinau, kad jos teisingos, daug minčių savyje jau pakeičiau, kaltų neieškau, žinau, jog pats esu už viską atsakingas. Žinau, ką ir kaip daryti, stengiuosi taip gyventi. Turiu noro, abejonių kaip ir nėra, bet vis nesigauna, vis grįžtu prie senųjų įpročių, rezultatai labai vidutiniai. Daug į save investuoju, daug skaitau ir domiuosi, turiu didžiulį žinių bagažą, bet finansinė sėkmė vis neaplanko.
4 balai. Turiu aiškų žinojimą ką ir kaip daryti, darau, gaunu rezultatus, kaupiu patirtį. Gaunasi pamažu vis geriau ir geriau. Kartais suprantu daugiau, kartais mažiau, tiesiog dirbu, bandau ir viskas gyvenime yra gerai. Įgyvendinu daug savo idėjų.
5 balai. Absoliučiai tikiu, tuo ką darau ir tuo ką žinau, mano (pasi)tikėjimas toks stiprus, jog lengvai savo idėjomis apkrėčiu kitus. Turiu didelę motyvaciją ir energiją savo sukurtiems planams įgyvendinti. Viskas gaunasi natūraliai ir savaime. Galiu padaryti tokius darbus, kurie kitiems atrodo absoliučiai neįmanomi.
Kuomet iš 3 balų pereiname į 4 balus jau prasideda veiksmai ir rezultatai. Svarbiausiomis savybėmis tampa atkaklumas, valia, užsispyrimas, noras nugalėti, (pasi)tikėjimas savimi. Veiksmus juk galima daryti ir be visų šių savybių, bet tada gausite vidutinius rezultatus, trūks motyvacijos. Juk su 1,2,3 balų stiprumo mintimis žmonės irgi kažką dirbą ir veikia, tačiau prie geresnių nei vidutinių rezultatų tai nepriveda. Sunkiausia gyventi žmonėms su 3 balų stiprumo mintimis, nes jų mąstymas yra teisingas, jie žino, kaip viskas turėtų būti, bet tam tikri vidiniai blokai, kažkaip vis neleidžia pradėti daryti reikiamų sprendimų. Jie jaučia, jog yra kažkur visai šalia, bet vis negauna tų rezultatų, kurių norėtų.
Keletas pavyzdžių. Geriau žvirblis rankoje, nei briedis girioje. Tuo liaudis nori pasakyti, jog geriau truputis absoliučiai užtikrinto tikėjimo, nei daug silpno tikėjimo ir nežinios. Visi žino, jog geriau uždirbti mažiau, bet užtikrintai, negu daugiau, bet neaišku kada, kur ir kaip. Daugelis žmonių yra tiesiog nepajėgūs ištverti nežinomybės, todėl gyvenime nerizikuoja ir geriau renkasi tai kas aišku ir patikrinta. Patekus į nežinomybę, jų minčių stiprumas krenta iki 1-2 balų ir jie kaip šiaudo griebiasi net pačio menkiausio užtikrintumo. Finansų magistrai važiuoja vasarą į Angliją braškių skaičiuoti, kad tik būtų užtikrintumas arba kaip sakoma, „svarbu užsikabinti“. „Užsikabinti gyvenime“ neužtenka, nes labai tikėtina, jog po to ir liksite taip „kabėti“ ilgam laikui. Jei mintys ir tikėjimas yra silpni, jie ir liks silpni. Retas, kuris „pakabėjęs“ sustiprėja ir eina daryti tai, ką iš tiesų nori. Žinių kiekis dar nereiškia minčių stiprumo. Galite būti tūkstantį knygų perskaitęs, tačiau tai nereiškia, jog turite vidinės jėgos ir mintys yra tiek stiprios, jog virstų norimais rezultatais.
Jei pasiūlo darbą su aiškiu atlygiu, turime 5 balų užtikrintumą. Mintys drąsios ir mes nedvejodami imamės darbo. Kai imamės patys kažką daryti savarankiškai, daug priklauso nuo mūsų sąmonės stiprumo. Jei esate garantuotas, jog idėja pavyks, turite klientų, kasdien dirbate ir reikalai juda į priekį - sąmonės stiprumas ir (pasi)tikėjimas aukštesni. Jei pradedate kažkokią naują veiklą, nesate tiek užtikrintas, (pasi)tikėjimas mažesnis. Jei greitų rezultatų nėra, kankina abejonės ar verta toliau investuoti savo laiką ir energiją. Pradedate galvoti gal užsiimti kažkuo kitu. Jei kurį laiką nesiseka jūsų mintys gali kristi iki 2 balų ir jūs dar labiau pradedate abejoti tuo ką darote. Jei mintys ir toliau silpnės, galiausiai mesite tai ką darėte.
Pardavimų rezultatai taip pat priklauso nuo minčių stiprumo. Tarkime, esate atsakingas už įmonės eksportą. Jei mintys silpnos, niekuomet nepasieksite gerų rezultatų. Silpnos mintys reiškia, jog nepilnai (pasi)tikite tuo ką parduodate, savo gebėjimais, nejaukiai jaučiatės bendraudamas, nemokate minčių sukaupti darbui, jos nuolat išsiblaško. Stiprios mintys reiškia, jog taip (pasi)tikite savo planais, kad kasdien darote sprendimus, jūsų užtikrintumas persiduoda kolegoms. Prisiminkime, jog mintys turi būti tiek stiprios, kad generuotų sprendimus. Jei nesate šioje fazėje, turite pašalinti visas priežastis trukdančias ją pasiekti.
Atsikratykite visų abejonių, kurios silpnina (pasi)tikėjimą. Mintys turi būti geležinės, 5 balų stiprumo. Liaudis sako, jog reikia labai labai norėti ir tada turėsi. Tačiau vienos geležinės minties neužtenka. Kas iš to, jog turėsite vieną mintį iš geležies, o likusias 99 iš kefyro. Užtenka keletos silpnų minčių, kurias žmogus nešiojasi ir tai gali jam blokuoti daugybę dalykų. Pinigai visuomet pradeda atsirasti toje tarpinėje būsenoje tarp materijos ir nematerijos, pasistengkite, kad jūsų mintys ją pasiektų ir joje pasiliktų nesvarbu kaip klostosi išorinės aplinkybės. Atidžiai sekite savo silpnąsias mintis, stiprinkite jas. Pinigai keliauja ten, kur stiprios mintys ir pasitikėjimas.
Aivaras Pranarauskas
www.success.lt/straipsniu-autoriai/pinigai/stiprios-mintys-virsta-pinigais
Tuesday, May 31, 2011
Body Mind Mastery. Audio Book Review
Law of resistance
Don’t try. Just set the goal and let it go, while trusting the process.
Set the clear goal and accomplish it every day, but politely, with no rush, no time limits, just trusting and enjoying the process (using visualization and other techniques meanwhile)
Balance
If you are too calm, be more active. Practice both in order to find the middle and feel yourself being centered.
Law of nature
The process can’t be rushed, its all programmed with the nature order. Only the human being is in the hurry. Calm down, don’t rush yourself, don’t make deadlines for yourself.
Awareness
Awareness is the beginning of learning.
Awareness of the problem is the beginning of the solution.
Bring more consciousness to your life!
Focusing more on behavior rather than trying to fix our insides and only having positive thoughts and only positive feelings, we focus only on one thing we can control on our will, which is our behavior. This is a great secret to success – focus on behavior.
Preparation. Series of small steps.
Everything is difficult until it becomes easy.
Meditation practice whether you sitting, standing or moving develops inside into the process of your thoughts. Paying attention in this way you are able to recognize, acknowledge and accept thoughts and feelings, but no longer let them drive your behavior or ruin your life. This is the beginning of body mind mastery.
The first step in transcending the mind is to notice how sometimes you blame external circumstances for your anger. And understand that problem lies not only in circumstances themselves, but in your mind’s resistance to what is. Body mind master isn’t concerned in controlling of fixing thoughts or feelings, but rather focusing on what he/she can control – action. Behaving in positive productive way no matter what thoughts or feelings may be arising.
Attention remains focused on here and now.
4 obstructions:
1) Limited self-concept
If you expect to do poorly, you’ll be less motivated and interested; will consume less time and energy. You just need to reinforce that limiting believe.
If you expect to believe, that you are a great dancer or that you are very likeable, you set emotions, behaviors that will fulfill your expectations.
Self-concept is no more real as a shadow of a shadow. It is illusion, until you see it. The best self-concept is none at all.
List of your abilities.
Competence brings confidence and competence comes from practice. So pay attention to each small success. Patch yourself on the back more and kick yourself less. Above all – keep training.
By constantly taking the shot in your own life, you increase chances of success.
Just for fun, start making positive rather than usual negative statements about your work, skill, potential even if you not fully believe them. Put every positive statement to yourself: I perform well under pressure, I remember names and faces – you open doors to new possibilities.
Visualize your dreams in detail. The subconscious mind doesn’t clearly differentiate between what picturing your mind’s eye and what you see with your physical eye. So the more you visualize positive outcomes, the more you attract them into your life.
2) Fear of failure
Failure is a natural part of learning process, a guide to progress.
We never really failed that way, cause we never really tried.
The fear of failure produces tension, which results of the contraction of the muscles. Such tension constricts the blood flow, slows the reflexes, which produces shallow breathing. All this reduce coordination ending in what is most feared.
To break this, you need to make a peaceful failure. You need to appreciate failure and use it.
3) Distructive self-criticism
Babies are free of self-criticism, they just keep practicing.
We often punish ourselves for the errors which are natural and essential.
4) Lack of concentrated attention
Focus on one thing at a time.
So when the time comes to act, remember to loose your mind and come to your senses, focus on a present, one pointed attention.
Although motivation comes and goes, you can always rely on your will. By applying our will no matter how we feel. Body mind masters do not deny or repress their feelings, but learn to stay physically relaxed even under stressful conditions.
Even when feeling angry, fearful and sorry-full, breathe deeply and evenly, and fully, keep your body relaxed. You are much more in control of your behavior than you do over your thoughts and emotions. So paradoxically the best way to master your emotions is to let them be, accept them as natural to you at the moment, while staying relaxed and focusing on constructive action.
3 rules of success:
1. Accept you emotions as natural to you at the moment without trying to fix them
2. Know your purpose and goals in the moment
3. Do whatever you need to do to reach those goals whether or not your emotions or moods help or hinder you.
The breath is an emotional state, because it both reflex and affects your level of tension. Learning to breathe properly gives you ability to literally inspire yourself. The breath is unifying link between body and mind. Proper breathing.
You can feel good physically no matter what negative thoughts or emotions arise. Negative thoughts don’t have to mean negative tension. If you willing to let them go by relaxing and breathing.
Fear, anger and sorrow are parts of life. You can’t make them go by wishing it.
You may feel fear but you don’t have to behave fearfully.
Feel what you feel, but act well.
“Heroes and cowards feel the same fear. Heroes just act differently”
Developing and care for the body also helps the mind and emotions.
The body will change slowly, but it will change.
Symptoms are the sign of the body re-adjusting.
The period may last from 1 to 6 weeks or longer. Unless the desire to change remains strong, body and mind tend to reform to the old familiar paterns. Be patient and persistant.
You absolutely CAN reshape your life paterns and body through instant direction and energy.
Study the literature, keep your eyes and ears open, above all pay attention and trust your instincts.
Notice the difference between what you want and what you need.
Relaxation – the master key to physical talent. Tension – licks energy.
Study of efficiency and movement shows, that people tend to waste effort and create unnecessary muscular tension in even simplest movements such as lifting a fork for a food, holding a book or sitting on a chair. They also showed that the muscles are tensed even not related to the movements being made. As your body gets use to relaxing in stillness and in motion you more easily notice tension as it begins to develop.
First, ask yourself are you relaxed? Can you relax a bit more?
Second, are you breathing? Take a deep breathe.
Am I doing whatever I’m doing are in elegance and attention?
In order to become stronger, you need to relax more.
The first step in releasing chronic tension is to become aware that it exists. Notice when you begin to tense, then shake loose and relax. Do this more and more.
If you ask your body to change, it will. But ask nicely.
Apply patience. It doesn’t have to hurt.
Injuries are usually because of the fears in a body. Insensitivity, impatience, inattention.
Satori – Japanese ideology of mind and body state.
Recognize and accept the transitions.
Cup of water in the morning.
Mental warm-up: determine a clear course of action for the day. Realistic goals based on your energy level and circumstances of the day.
Emotional warm-up begins with a few deep calming breaths. Focus on what excites you about training, picture yourself succeeding in reaching your goals.
Mental and emotional warm-up might seem long and involved, but they can actually take place at the speed of thought.
Exercising body, breath and attention.
Don’t repeat the same mistake twice. Consciously make each attempt different – you simply experimenting, exploring the many possibilities for error.
Awareness and practice: if you practice hitting 500 golf balls every day, but pay close attention to only 100 of those swings, then you are wasting 400 swings a day. In fact, those 400 semi-conscious swings may do more harm than good, because you can form incorrect path ways without noticing it.
If you make an error, don’t just automatically repeat the attempt. Take a moment of being fully aware of what was wrong. If you don’t identify the error, you may tend to repeat it.
Don’t practice many repetitions at first, instead begin with very few conscious repetitions maintaining intense concentration and interest. Continue practicing while concentration and interest are strong, but if you begin to repeat and error or concentration and interest fade, if your approach becomes casual, then stop and return to your practice later.
Practice is like gambling – you have to know when to quit.
Only begin to do many repetitions of the skill for endurance and stabilization when you can consistently repeat the correct pattern.
Learning studies showed that we can maintain our best concentration for 3 attempts. So practice everything in 3’s and then pause, relax, take a short brake before practicing another series of 3. Check yourself, take a deep breath, shake loose, relax. Feel awareness tingling through your body, your finger tips and toes, feel your concentration to the earth, then continue.
When you perform an incorrect movement pattern over a period of time, you become comfortable with that pattern. Any changes, even toward a correct pattern will feel strange and will be more difficult. Because we all become comfortable with established patterns of moving and acting in the world and because changes, even improvements, feel awkward for a time. We tend to under correct. We stick close to home, to the old familiar patterns. So after working both sides: too high and too low, too right and too left, too fast and too slow, you find a correct centered place. It may seem like a waste of time. However, those willing to do just that to work both sides tend to get the result in more success, more efficient and in less time that those unwilling to explore both sides.
Ideomotor action and mental practice. Your power of imagination can help you enhance all skills and learn new ones. The interaction of mind and body makes it possible.
Clear image even without actual movement develop correct muscular responses. It will also program you for success. The main requirement of mental practice is to stay relaxed, with no muscle tension. You can lie down or sit quietly. Once you know how the movement should feel like, practice and repeat it in your mind.
Visualization, imagery and mental rehearsal – tools for success in sport and life.
If you want power and speed, then practice precisely in slow-motion. Slow down in order to speed up.
Pay attention to a perfect beginning and ending position (you may not know where you are in the middle of the movement though)
Breaking each skill into relatively simple parts: the beginning, the middle and the end. Then put parts together. It’s more fun because you can feel small successes every day.
Children are the masters of imitation. Don’t envy for other people to have better qualities – copy them and progress.
1) Prepare yourself physically
2) Appreciate that it is ok to copy
3) Make sure you choose good role models
All games involve overcoming an obstacle to achieve a goal, but nowhere it is written that obstacle has to be someone else. See your opponent as a teacher.
Have I done my best today? All winning, loosing, titles and fame fall under the shadow of this question.
The important thing is to do more in training than you need to do in competition.
Don’t fight your nervousness, use it – move.
In any stressful situation you can remember to relax and breathe fully. The only reason between fear and excitement is whether you are breathing.
A game is just a game.
If you treat every day, every moment as a learning experience you ultimately can’t loose.
Stop thinking and jump!
Create a ceremony out of every moment. Do everything with the same attention which might give a championship game.
Balance between rationality, intuition and instinct.
I finished listening to audio book of Body Mind Mastery! :) With 7 pages of notes! :) I wanted to do it for a long time and finally I did it! :) Now I want to watch Peaceful Warrior’s work out! Am I gonna do it? Yes – is the answer :)
Don’t try. Just set the goal and let it go, while trusting the process.
Set the clear goal and accomplish it every day, but politely, with no rush, no time limits, just trusting and enjoying the process (using visualization and other techniques meanwhile)
Balance
If you are too calm, be more active. Practice both in order to find the middle and feel yourself being centered.
Law of nature
The process can’t be rushed, its all programmed with the nature order. Only the human being is in the hurry. Calm down, don’t rush yourself, don’t make deadlines for yourself.
Awareness
Awareness is the beginning of learning.
Awareness of the problem is the beginning of the solution.
Bring more consciousness to your life!
Focusing more on behavior rather than trying to fix our insides and only having positive thoughts and only positive feelings, we focus only on one thing we can control on our will, which is our behavior. This is a great secret to success – focus on behavior.
Preparation. Series of small steps.
Everything is difficult until it becomes easy.
Meditation practice whether you sitting, standing or moving develops inside into the process of your thoughts. Paying attention in this way you are able to recognize, acknowledge and accept thoughts and feelings, but no longer let them drive your behavior or ruin your life. This is the beginning of body mind mastery.
The first step in transcending the mind is to notice how sometimes you blame external circumstances for your anger. And understand that problem lies not only in circumstances themselves, but in your mind’s resistance to what is. Body mind master isn’t concerned in controlling of fixing thoughts or feelings, but rather focusing on what he/she can control – action. Behaving in positive productive way no matter what thoughts or feelings may be arising.
Attention remains focused on here and now.
4 obstructions:
1) Limited self-concept
If you expect to do poorly, you’ll be less motivated and interested; will consume less time and energy. You just need to reinforce that limiting believe.
If you expect to believe, that you are a great dancer or that you are very likeable, you set emotions, behaviors that will fulfill your expectations.
Self-concept is no more real as a shadow of a shadow. It is illusion, until you see it. The best self-concept is none at all.
List of your abilities.
Competence brings confidence and competence comes from practice. So pay attention to each small success. Patch yourself on the back more and kick yourself less. Above all – keep training.
By constantly taking the shot in your own life, you increase chances of success.
Just for fun, start making positive rather than usual negative statements about your work, skill, potential even if you not fully believe them. Put every positive statement to yourself: I perform well under pressure, I remember names and faces – you open doors to new possibilities.
Visualize your dreams in detail. The subconscious mind doesn’t clearly differentiate between what picturing your mind’s eye and what you see with your physical eye. So the more you visualize positive outcomes, the more you attract them into your life.
2) Fear of failure
Failure is a natural part of learning process, a guide to progress.
We never really failed that way, cause we never really tried.
The fear of failure produces tension, which results of the contraction of the muscles. Such tension constricts the blood flow, slows the reflexes, which produces shallow breathing. All this reduce coordination ending in what is most feared.
To break this, you need to make a peaceful failure. You need to appreciate failure and use it.
3) Distructive self-criticism
Babies are free of self-criticism, they just keep practicing.
We often punish ourselves for the errors which are natural and essential.
4) Lack of concentrated attention
Focus on one thing at a time.
So when the time comes to act, remember to loose your mind and come to your senses, focus on a present, one pointed attention.
Although motivation comes and goes, you can always rely on your will. By applying our will no matter how we feel. Body mind masters do not deny or repress their feelings, but learn to stay physically relaxed even under stressful conditions.
Even when feeling angry, fearful and sorry-full, breathe deeply and evenly, and fully, keep your body relaxed. You are much more in control of your behavior than you do over your thoughts and emotions. So paradoxically the best way to master your emotions is to let them be, accept them as natural to you at the moment, while staying relaxed and focusing on constructive action.
3 rules of success:
1. Accept you emotions as natural to you at the moment without trying to fix them
2. Know your purpose and goals in the moment
3. Do whatever you need to do to reach those goals whether or not your emotions or moods help or hinder you.
The breath is an emotional state, because it both reflex and affects your level of tension. Learning to breathe properly gives you ability to literally inspire yourself. The breath is unifying link between body and mind. Proper breathing.
You can feel good physically no matter what negative thoughts or emotions arise. Negative thoughts don’t have to mean negative tension. If you willing to let them go by relaxing and breathing.
Fear, anger and sorrow are parts of life. You can’t make them go by wishing it.
You may feel fear but you don’t have to behave fearfully.
Feel what you feel, but act well.
“Heroes and cowards feel the same fear. Heroes just act differently”
Developing and care for the body also helps the mind and emotions.
The body will change slowly, but it will change.
Symptoms are the sign of the body re-adjusting.
The period may last from 1 to 6 weeks or longer. Unless the desire to change remains strong, body and mind tend to reform to the old familiar paterns. Be patient and persistant.
You absolutely CAN reshape your life paterns and body through instant direction and energy.
Study the literature, keep your eyes and ears open, above all pay attention and trust your instincts.
Notice the difference between what you want and what you need.
Relaxation – the master key to physical talent. Tension – licks energy.
Study of efficiency and movement shows, that people tend to waste effort and create unnecessary muscular tension in even simplest movements such as lifting a fork for a food, holding a book or sitting on a chair. They also showed that the muscles are tensed even not related to the movements being made. As your body gets use to relaxing in stillness and in motion you more easily notice tension as it begins to develop.
First, ask yourself are you relaxed? Can you relax a bit more?
Second, are you breathing? Take a deep breathe.
Am I doing whatever I’m doing are in elegance and attention?
In order to become stronger, you need to relax more.
The first step in releasing chronic tension is to become aware that it exists. Notice when you begin to tense, then shake loose and relax. Do this more and more.
If you ask your body to change, it will. But ask nicely.
Apply patience. It doesn’t have to hurt.
Injuries are usually because of the fears in a body. Insensitivity, impatience, inattention.
Satori – Japanese ideology of mind and body state.
Recognize and accept the transitions.
Cup of water in the morning.
Mental warm-up: determine a clear course of action for the day. Realistic goals based on your energy level and circumstances of the day.
Emotional warm-up begins with a few deep calming breaths. Focus on what excites you about training, picture yourself succeeding in reaching your goals.
Mental and emotional warm-up might seem long and involved, but they can actually take place at the speed of thought.
Exercising body, breath and attention.
Don’t repeat the same mistake twice. Consciously make each attempt different – you simply experimenting, exploring the many possibilities for error.
Awareness and practice: if you practice hitting 500 golf balls every day, but pay close attention to only 100 of those swings, then you are wasting 400 swings a day. In fact, those 400 semi-conscious swings may do more harm than good, because you can form incorrect path ways without noticing it.
If you make an error, don’t just automatically repeat the attempt. Take a moment of being fully aware of what was wrong. If you don’t identify the error, you may tend to repeat it.
Don’t practice many repetitions at first, instead begin with very few conscious repetitions maintaining intense concentration and interest. Continue practicing while concentration and interest are strong, but if you begin to repeat and error or concentration and interest fade, if your approach becomes casual, then stop and return to your practice later.
Practice is like gambling – you have to know when to quit.
Only begin to do many repetitions of the skill for endurance and stabilization when you can consistently repeat the correct pattern.
Learning studies showed that we can maintain our best concentration for 3 attempts. So practice everything in 3’s and then pause, relax, take a short brake before practicing another series of 3. Check yourself, take a deep breath, shake loose, relax. Feel awareness tingling through your body, your finger tips and toes, feel your concentration to the earth, then continue.
When you perform an incorrect movement pattern over a period of time, you become comfortable with that pattern. Any changes, even toward a correct pattern will feel strange and will be more difficult. Because we all become comfortable with established patterns of moving and acting in the world and because changes, even improvements, feel awkward for a time. We tend to under correct. We stick close to home, to the old familiar patterns. So after working both sides: too high and too low, too right and too left, too fast and too slow, you find a correct centered place. It may seem like a waste of time. However, those willing to do just that to work both sides tend to get the result in more success, more efficient and in less time that those unwilling to explore both sides.
Ideomotor action and mental practice. Your power of imagination can help you enhance all skills and learn new ones. The interaction of mind and body makes it possible.
Clear image even without actual movement develop correct muscular responses. It will also program you for success. The main requirement of mental practice is to stay relaxed, with no muscle tension. You can lie down or sit quietly. Once you know how the movement should feel like, practice and repeat it in your mind.
Visualization, imagery and mental rehearsal – tools for success in sport and life.
If you want power and speed, then practice precisely in slow-motion. Slow down in order to speed up.
Pay attention to a perfect beginning and ending position (you may not know where you are in the middle of the movement though)
Breaking each skill into relatively simple parts: the beginning, the middle and the end. Then put parts together. It’s more fun because you can feel small successes every day.
Children are the masters of imitation. Don’t envy for other people to have better qualities – copy them and progress.
1) Prepare yourself physically
2) Appreciate that it is ok to copy
3) Make sure you choose good role models
All games involve overcoming an obstacle to achieve a goal, but nowhere it is written that obstacle has to be someone else. See your opponent as a teacher.
Have I done my best today? All winning, loosing, titles and fame fall under the shadow of this question.
The important thing is to do more in training than you need to do in competition.
Don’t fight your nervousness, use it – move.
In any stressful situation you can remember to relax and breathe fully. The only reason between fear and excitement is whether you are breathing.
A game is just a game.
If you treat every day, every moment as a learning experience you ultimately can’t loose.
Stop thinking and jump!
Create a ceremony out of every moment. Do everything with the same attention which might give a championship game.
Balance between rationality, intuition and instinct.
I finished listening to audio book of Body Mind Mastery! :) With 7 pages of notes! :) I wanted to do it for a long time and finally I did it! :) Now I want to watch Peaceful Warrior’s work out! Am I gonna do it? Yes – is the answer :)
Saturday, May 28, 2011
John Assaraf's Tips For Goal Achievement
The clearer you set the goal, the easier it will be to achieve it.
Write down precisely what you really really want to achieve in each area of your life.
To know what not to look for as well important as to know what to look for.
Put a time line: 1 year, 3 years, 5 years life goal and see what you can do today, this week, this month, year.
It takes a little bit of planning and time to focus on what it is you want to do.
1) it will teach you what you don't want
2)it will help your brain to focus on what you do want
3) you will give instructions to this incredibly intelligent universe
Writing the goal down is the first step of really achieving the goals.
When you focus on these goals every single day and you create a plan of actions for it, when you will have significant and measurable results.
Write down precisely what you really really want to achieve in each area of your life.
To know what not to look for as well important as to know what to look for.
Put a time line: 1 year, 3 years, 5 years life goal and see what you can do today, this week, this month, year.
It takes a little bit of planning and time to focus on what it is you want to do.
1) it will teach you what you don't want
2)it will help your brain to focus on what you do want
3) you will give instructions to this incredibly intelligent universe
Writing the goal down is the first step of really achieving the goals.
When you focus on these goals every single day and you create a plan of actions for it, when you will have significant and measurable results.
Wednesday, April 13, 2011
Simply Happy
"It is very simple to be happy, but it is very difficult to be simple" - Rabindranath Tagore
Friday, April 8, 2011
Oneness with Gaia
"In a world filled with deception, false illusions and planned
catastrophes - the only safe place to go is within, in the depths of
being where divine light and guidance resides - intuitive knowledge
and protective wisdom. The rest is a show, a lie and the light and
love we share is truth, a sanctuary we must expand and embrace upon
our own self-realization and recognition of our Oneness with Gaia"
by Tuulia
catastrophes - the only safe place to go is within, in the depths of
being where divine light and guidance resides - intuitive knowledge
and protective wisdom. The rest is a show, a lie and the light and
love we share is truth, a sanctuary we must expand and embrace upon
our own self-realization and recognition of our Oneness with Gaia"
by Tuulia
Friday, April 1, 2011
Just Do It! An Interview with Dan Millman
Reprinted, with Permission, from Self Mastery Magazine
Q: What is your definition of "self-mastery"?
DM: Self-mastery involves the recognition what we are not responsible for-the thoughts that enter our mind and flow
out, and the emotions that pass like the weather-and also what we are responsible for, which is our behavior. My view
of self-mastery focuses on acting with kindness whether or not we're in the mood, based on three principles: accept
your emotions; know your purpose; then do what needs to be done-whether or not you happen to feel like it at the time.
As I see it, we humans are filled with tendencies. We tend to be lazy or to overwork. We tend to let our emotions
drive our behavior. We tend to indulge or to deny ourselves. We tend to be passive or aggressive, lackadaisical or
obsessive, to act without thinking or to think without acting. We tend to deny or avoid dealing with problems until the
eleventh hour or a crisis. We tend to be self-centered, defensive and resentful.
Daily life-spiritual life-tests us, teaches us, challenges us to transcend our tendencies by observing the
consequences of our actions through this natural, evolutionary process of living and learning. Self-mastery appears in
those moments when we subordinate our little will-our personal tendencies and preferences-to the dominion of our
higher will, higher self, higher integrity or higher ideals. It's a conscious movement from "What's in it for me?" to
"What will serve the highest good of all involved?" George Bernard Shaw put it well when he said, "Never mind likes
and dislikes; they are of no consequence. Just do what must be done. This may not be happiness, but it is greatness."
Q: And how would you define "enlightenment"?
DM: Arbitrarily we can say that there are two realities. A transcendent reality and a conventional reality. For example,
the idea that "we are all One" is certainly not true from a conventional viewpoint. If I stub my toe, it doesn't hurt you. If I have a feeling or a thought, you may not have the same feeling or thought. So, conventionally speaking, we're
separate individuated beings, physically, emotionally and mentally. But transcendentally speaking, from the viewpoint
of higher truth, we are each and all the same Awareness shining through all these different gift wrappings, these
different eyes. At that level, we are One. Different truths operate at different levels-conventional truths and
transcendental truths.
Now if we're talking about enlightenment, traditionally speaking, we refer to a transcendent Realization that has
nothing to do with fixing one's personality, making things work, succeeding, reaching goals, getting what we think we
need or want to make ourselves happy, or even achieving self-mastery. Transcendental Enlightenment has been
described in many different ways-seeing life from the bigger picture, from a viewpoint at the ends of the universe,
through the eyes of God-as a sense of union, communion, unity, and freedom. But really it's beyond words, which is
why it's been described in so many different ways. Lao Tsu said, "Those who know do not speak, and those who speak
do not know," because we can only point to it. I've had glimpses of that transcendent state.
But I believe this issue of enlightenment becomes more clear if we view life as a series of moments-I often say
I've never met an intelligent or neurotic or enlightened being; I've only met people who have more intelligent, neurotic
or enlightened moments. I've studied with different masters who were acknowledged by many to be enlightened-or who had declared themselves so and seemed to manifest a presence, charisma, or capacities that some associate with
enlightenment. But I've also seen these masters in what struck me personally as some unenlightened moments. It may
be more realistic to say that we have a responsibility to realize and live our enlightenment from moment to moment
rather than thinking that we'll just have an experience and say, "From now on, that's it. I'm enlightened."
Q: You seem to be suggesting that while enlightenment is in one sense beyond this world, it also must be lived in this
world in a very practical way. From that perspective, what do you see as the relationship between enlightenment and
self-mastery?
DM: The Indian saint Ramakrishna once said, "If you try to open a walnut when the shell is green, it's almost
impossible, but if you wait until the walnut is ripe, it opens with just a tap." Life is our ripening process. I view the
quest for self-mastery as a conventional ripening process -something we can learn, do, bring into the world. It occurs in
the context of everyday life and involves our functional human capacities-our will-and leads toward our human
potential. The quest for self-mastery provides our preparation or ripening. But self-mastery in itself has nothing to do
with enlightenment; in a sense, nothing we do has to do with enlightenment! It is by definition a transcendent
Realization that I believe that comes by grace. At some point, somebody or something or God working through
somebody or something provides the tap when we are ripe. We can not achieve enlightenment by hard work, but we
can prepare ourselves, set the foundation, pray, then wait. The rest is on God's timetable.
There's a proverb that goes, "There's God, then there's not paying attention." What I often mention in my seminars
is something Rabbi Hillel once said: "There are three mysteries in this world: air to the birds, water to the fish, and
humanity to itself." Even now we are immersed in Spirit, whether we call it "God" or "beauty" or "inspiration." After
all, it's not as if the weather person on the radio or television says, "Twenty percent chance of rain and forty percent
Spirit out today." Spirit, God, is always here but we don't notice. We don't commune with That because our attention is trapped by issues like, "How am I going to pay for the car repair, get to the appointment on time, deal with my
relationships and emotional issues, my physical issues, my body?" And on and on. Self-mastery serves as a
preparation for noticing God, for communion, for Self-Realization, by cleaning up unfinished business, by confronting
and resolving those issues which monopolize or imprison our attention. As we function cleanly and clearly in the
world, we liberate our attention to notice God or spirit or beauty. In this sense, self-mastery is our ripening process.
Life isn't a neat, orderly, step-by-step process toward enlightenment. Life doesn't offer guarantees. So self-mastery
doesn't necessarily leads to enlightenment. But there are laws of reality I've learned from my athletic training, and one
of those laws is that if you prepare well, you're more likely to get desired outcomes than if you don't prepare well. But
ultimately, we are not in control. Michael Jordan cannot control whether he makes a basket every time. But he can
control whether he takes a shot. That's the best we can do in our own lives-to take the shot. Doing so will vastly
increase the likelihood of making the basket over not taking the shot. But there is the other side of this issue, which is
that we trying too hard may be counter-productive. Trying implies tension and attachment. Remember those five rules
for living: First, show up; second, pay attention; third, live your truth; fourth, do your best, and fifth, don't be attached
to outcomes (which we can't control).
We all know that life involves work-that it can be difficult-a form of spiritual weightlifting. Life tests and teaches
us, tempers our spirits. Difficulties are how we learn and grow, and we need to appreciate that. The concept of
achieving self-mastery is less important to me than the effort, the quest. A man named Shoma Morita, M.D. once said,
"Effort is success." Maybe that's why St. Augustine remarked, "Lord, I pray not for a lighter load but for stronger
shoulders." Everyday life can give us stronger shoulders.
Q: Your new book is called Everyday Enlightenment. Is the "everyday enlightenment" that you've written about the
same as or different from the ultimate spiritual realization described by the world's wisdom traditions?
DM: I would say they are different. The practice of enlightenment I give at the end of my book involves conventional
enlightenment-enlightened behavior-self-mastery. Not the same as the ultimate Realization described in the spiritual
traditions. However, I recommend this practice as a constructive way to spend one's time, one's life, while waiting for
the Cosmic State.
There are two great schools of thought operating in our world, it seems to me. And they've been operating since
the time of the ancient Greeks and long before. There's the Idealist School and the Realist School. The churches, for
example, tend to be more idealist. The Catholic Church isn't wrong in its dictums; it's just idealistic. The Church is
there not to compromise or be run by popular opinion, but to draw us to our highest ideals. To tell young people to
"just abstain from sex until married" is perhaps ultimately best-or at least until one is in a mature and committed
relationship. But do we actually live this way? Few of us, I can tell you. So at the same time as we might offer advice
or guidance in accord with our highest ideals, it may also be realistic to educate them about safe sex and contraception
rather than pretending it's not going to happen, and make sure they have access to condoms in case they do engage. As the Arabic proverb goes, "Trust in God but tie your camel."
Some people hold to the idealist view that we should wait for "genuine enlightenment," the transcendent
Realization of God. That's fine, but we may wait lifetimes for that and not pay a great deal of attention to what we're
doing in the meantime. When I refer to practicing "everyday enlightenment," I'm speaking about actually consciously
asking, "How would an enlightened being act in this moment?"-then behaving that way. Someone might ask , "You
suggest that I pretend I'm enlightened?" I would respond, "Yes. Pretend--like a shy young boy pretending he's confident and asking a young lady to dance--like a terrified soldier who pretends he's courageous while saving a comrade under fire. By "pretending"-by behaving as if we were enlightened beings, we find our breath relaxing, our body relaxing and opening, our faces smiling- even though our internal reality might be bummed out about something. We might have depressed emotions and still smile at someone or do a kind deed, because that is what an enlightened being might do in that situation. Of course, we need to avoid acting out a caricature of "enlightenment" like the Kwai Chang Caine character on the Kung Fu TV series. It doesn't mean we deny our reality or fool ourselves, nor is it a form of pretense. Saying "I am enlightened" doesn't make one enlightened any more than saying "I am a pineapple" makes one a
pineapple. Enlightenment doesn't mean always acting blissful or talking in a certain way. That would not be realistic.
Although "everyday enlightenment" is not the same as Enlightenment in the ultimate sense, it's a good practice to
adapt our bodies and minds, to prepare them, to make them more transparent, to become a servant in the world while we're waiting for our insides to be filled with light. I think this provides a very meaningful practice-that we can, in any moment we remember, play the role of an enlightened being.
Although it may sound presumptuous, I suggest that the "practice of enlightenment" as described in my book is
the highest practice any human being can do, because it incorporates all other practices one might do. If you are
meditating, for example, you can say, "How would an enlightened being meditate?"-and meditate that way. It's based
on the fundamental presumption that we can control (and are responsible for) our behaviors.
One question I ask people is: "Would you rather live with an enlightened being who acted crazy or a crazy person
who acted enlightened?" I don't offer an answer, but suggest that it is a very interesting question to consider.
Q: One of the things we've observed in the course of our exploration for this issue is that individuals who have attained
either self-mastery or enlightenment always seem to emanate an extraordinary degree of confidence, a sense of being
unbound by limitation. In those who have "mastered themselves," that confidence seems to arise from the discovery
that they have the power to break through seeming limitations and do things they never imagined they could, the
discovery of an overwhelming sense of "I Can." Whereas in enlightened individuals, it seems to arise not from the
discovery of their own personal power but from the deep, mysterious and life changing realization of their essential
unity with the very ground and source of all existence that you alluded to before-a realization not of "I Can" but of "I
Am." What do you see as the difference between the confidence of the self-master and the confidence of the
enlightened person?
DM: Well, I would say that one kind of confidence is conditional and the other is unconditional. One type of selfconfidence involves the smaller self; the other is confidence not in self but in Reality or God or Spirit working in, as,
and through the "self." Enlightened Self-Confidence is not based on a great self-image or confidence in one's
capacities, but in an ultimate trust in whatever happens, and a complete unconcern over whether one is liked, because
one rests in the knowledge that one is loved. No, not that one is loved, but that one is Love. Most of us want to feel
good about ourselves, want to feel self-esteem and self-confidence. In fact, most of our "search for enlightenment" is
motivated by wanting to feel good in some ultimate sense.
My years in athletics taught me that even if you are unsure you can accomplish something; even if you are filled
with self doubt-if you work toward it and discover that not only can you do it but that you have done it, you may
generalize this realization to other challenges in life. You may reason, "I really didn't think I could accomplish the last
task, but I did; maybe I can meet this next challenge as well."
Q: How does this distinction between the realization of "I Can" and the realization of "I Am" accord with your own
experience?
DM: Having a sense of "I Can," seems positive from a conventional viewpoint. I would say it's preferable for us to say
or feel "I can," than "I can't." Henry Ford said, "Those who believe they can and those who believe they can't are both
right." We're more likely to attempt something we believe we can, or might be able to, accomplish. But "I Can" is not
in the same ballpark as the profound faith based on the knowledge that our souls rest safe and secure in the arms of
Spirit. I don't necessarily choose to use the words, "I Am." I don't relate to "I Am-ness," personally, because it has a
level of abstraction about it. I can get my arms around "I Can." To me, what matters about human life on every is what
we do. There's a lot of New Age talk about beingness. Teachers advise, "Don't do. Just be." While we live we are going
to be, to exist. But we are also going to do, to move, to act. "What is this be? It sounds good, but what does it mean?"
Everything that has been accomplished by human beings involves human doings. Still, I do acknowledge that the
transcendent state of Enlightenment-the ultimate goal and endpoint of human evolution--doesn't itself depend on our
consciously doing anything. In that moment, there is only Being (even as all the doings continue).
These ideas of being and doing relate to the two "solutions" to human life. The "Western Solution" to happiness is
outward achievement. Many people have become disillusioned with this extroverted solution-they have seen that
success didn't make them or their parents happy-so they have become attracted to the "Eastern Solution" which
involves going inside, meditating, doing internal spiritual practices. They aim for an internal kind of success so that one
day, maybe in this lifetime or another lifetime, when they fix their insides, get centered, attain inner peace, they might
achieve or earn the "state" of transcendental Enlightenment. Meanwhile, they may ignore their kids, let their functional life--their finances, relationships, or education, go down the toilet. So we're waiting for that cosmic illumination, we might as well behave kindly and live as many enlightened moments as we can, even if we know it's "pretending." Why not fake it until we make it? While we're aspiring, let's do some perspiring-roll up our sleeves and become willing to play the most challenging of all roles in the theater of life-an enlightened man or woman. So the important questions to me are not "Am I in my beingness?" But rather, "Do I live well? Am I kind to other people? Do I occasionally pick up some litter on the street?
You know, when I'm on the road, in another city or country, I can't know how my words impact people--but when
I leave a city, I can tell you this--it's a little cleaner. Little things like that can make a big difference.
Q: Another observation we've made about the attainment of self-mastery is that it seems to always include a movement from a negative, limited sense of self to a deeply positive sense of self. Traditional teachings of enlightenment, on the other hand, tell us that the ultimate human attainment is the discovery of "no self," the realization that our true nature, who we really are, is beyond any notion of self, positive or negative, and that it is in fact the very idea that we exist as a separate individual at all that inhibits us from discovering true freedom. Do you agree that ultimately any fixed notion of self, including even one that is extremely positive, has to be given up if we are to become truly free?
DM: Yes, except I'd change the words. Rather than suggesting that the self has to be "given up," I'd say, "seen
through." To me, the best way to transcend the ego is not by somehow trying to get rid of it, but by applying both
insight and humor. These are the two best spiritual tools to transcend the ego. I use my ego to learn, to teach and to
serve. It's just my personality level. And while I take my work seriously, I don't take this "Dan Millman" character
seriously.
Q: When you use the word "ego" here, are you referring to the separate sense of self?
DM: What we call "ego" is our conscious self, our sense of identity. As newborn infants, we have no clearly defined
boundaries or sense of self. We exist in a dreamlike world where we are also our mother, and everyone else. In
growing up we develop this sense of self that ends at the skin.
In India, people called "masts" have no sense of separate identity. They just sit there; people have to feed and care
for them. In the West we might refer to them as "catatonic," but in Indian spiritual tradition they are treated as special
beings because they have no ego, no sense of a self that needs to do, achieve, or even survive. That's one kind of
"egolessness." Neither newborn infants nor certain Zen masters have much of an ego. The difference is that in the
infant the ego is undeveloped, and in a Zen master the ego is presumably transcended.
Motivational speakers and others who help others to develop a sense of confidence-to find out that they can--help
the ego get what it thinks it needs to be happy. This approach may be popular and attractive to many people, but in a
sense it is a limited practice-at best perhaps a steppingstone along the path.
Q: Both in the quest for self-mastery and in the quest for enlightenment, it seems that one almost inevitably encounters many internal obstacles, the foremost of which is probably fear. In fact, you devoted a chapter of your book to this. In the pursuit of self-mastery, it manifests most often as, say, fear of challenge or fear of change. And descriptions of the quest for enlightenment often include an encounter with the existential fear of leaving behind all familiar reference points, of leaping into the unknown. In Everyday Enlightenment you state that while we cannot control fear or make it go away, "we can overcome any fear." What, in your view, is the key to overcoming fear?
DM: Simply put, in the words of Susan Jeffers, "feel the fear and do it anyway" -doing what it is we need to do. It has
nothing to do with finding methods to make the fear go away and feel better before we can act. Sometimes fear does
diminish over time or with practice. Competence breeds confidence. If I dive off a ten meter tower, I'm going to be
afraid the first number of times I try it, but eventually I'll become accustomed to it, learn how to do it well, safely,
consistently -I won't feel afraid anymore-until I try a new dive which I haven't yet accomplished. Fear comes and goes
and, as does any emotion. We don't have any direct control over it in the sense of being able to just will it away or
banish it. It's quite natural, even appropriate, to feel fear in many situations. When someone asks, "When should I let
fear guide me and listen to it, and when should I ignore it and act anyway?" I offer the following: When the fear is
objective-that is fear for our physical safety-when we might die or be injured, we need to listen to the fear, let it be our
guide and remind us to prepare well, be patient, stay alert, take precautions or avoid the situation. But if a fear is
subjective-fear of embarrassment or shame, looking foolish, being rejected, or fear of the unknown-we need to
acknowledge the fear, but act anyway.
When someone says, "I can't do something because I'm too afraid," they're usually lying to themselves. For
example, I can't levitate or walk through walls. But if I say, "I can't speak in public because I'm too afraid," or "I can't
do this or that because it's just too hard," what I'm really saying is, "I choose not to do it because it makes me feel too
uncomfortable." That's fine; we have free will and can make choices. But let's not fool ourselves that the fear is
somehow stopping us. And when we say, "I'm a phobic-I've been diagnosed," all we're really saying is, "I'm really
uncomfortable." So we get flu-like symptoms-highly unpleasant, to be sure-our heart may palpitate; we feel nauseous;
we get pale; we may hyperventilate; our knees may shake. But we can still do it. We can take a deep, slow breath; we
can relax our body; that is in our control. And then we can do what we fear. It may not feel pleasant, but if it's our goal
to do it, we can.
Q: In your work, you seem to place a great deal of emphasis on the power of self-discipline, on how conscious,
directed action can transform our lives. In Everyday Enlightenment, you at one point even state that "no matter what
you might learn in this or any similar book, living effectively comes down to applying your will to control your
behavior," which seems to be a perfect summation of the essence of self-mastery. In traditional enlightenment
teachings, there is also an emphasis on the need for self-discipline or self-control, yet in those traditions, that need for
self-control is always secondary to and in the service of the ultimate demand for profound surrender, for a complete
relinquishing of control in order to allow a force greater than oneself to move one's life. In the end, which do you feel is more important for the individual who wants to be free: surrender or self-control?
DM: I acknowledge the spiritual supremacy of surrender. As I express in my book, The Laws of Spirit, in "The Law of
Surrender," surrendering to life, to God, to this moment, can be the most assertive, creative, intelligent act anyone can
do. But when I surrender, how do I know whether I'm surrendering to God or surrendering to my internal impulses?
Does surrender have anything to do with doing what I think is best in the moment? If somebody is yelling at me, and
my impulse is to not be kind but I'm kind, did I just surrender to God or did I apply my will? Thus, surrender versus
applying one's will remains a paradox. If God is in me, then is not my will also God's will? This is delicate and shaky
ground, for we cannot ultimately know what is for our highest good or learning, or for the highest good for all
concerned. Still, free will is a God-given ability, and I believe that it is important that we apply our will-to use our
intelligence and our awareness in doing what seems best in each moment. Doing what is best may in a sense also be
surrendering to our higher will or a higher will. So do we call it self-control or surrender? When we pray, "Thy will be
done," is Thy will necessarily or always different from my will?
Surrender may be an ultimate spiritual practice, but how we apply it is an artful process, I think. In the same way, it is
easy to advise people to, "Be kind," but it takes wisdom to know what kind of behavior constitutes "kindness" in a
given situation. Some of us tend to do things like help old ladies across the street without noticing whether they
actually wanted to cross. Or if our spouse is upset with us, do we remain calm and smile blissfully and calmly at them?
That may not, in reflection, be the kindest thing to do. It may be kinder to yell back if they want to engage you with
passion. So surrender, like kindness, is an artful process that requires awareness, patience, and practice.
Q: In your chapter, "Reclaim Your Will," you make an interesting distinction. You state that if we want to change the
course of our lives, there are two routes we can take. One, "you can direct your energy and attention towards trying to
fix your mind, find your focus, affirm your power, free your emotions and visualize positive outcomes so that you can
finally develop the confidence to display the courage, to discover the determination, to make the commitment, to feel
sufficiently motivated to do what it is you need to do." Or, two, "you can just do it." Now, the first approach appears to
be much more popular, yet the second option obviously sounds preferable. What changes within the individual who
makes that decision to "just do it"?
DM: Most of us learn to "just do it" after exhausting all the other short-cuts and easy ways and psychological tricks and
motivational techniques don't work. After we've used up our subliminal tapes, self-hypnosis, affirmations,
visualizations, inspirational speakers, encouraging words, positive self-talk, we are left with the existential question,
"Will I do it, or not?" We finally confront reality. Ultimately, we don't have to "reclaim our will" or "find our
confidence" or "develop our discipline." We don't even have to believe we can do it or say we can do it. We just have
to do it. Doing what needs doing doesn't require any internal state or feeling. You just have to do it. But we have this
persistent hope, this stubborn wish, that we will find a shortcut, an easier way. We'd rather work on our insides for a
few days or years or lifetimes. But what does life come down to? How do we turn what we know into what we
actually do?
One reviewer of my book said, "Millman's much too simplistic. For addicts, he recommends they "just stop" rather
than finding a proper treatment program." In reality, I do recommend treatment programs for some people. But it still
comes to this: Whether we do a twelve-step program, join Alcoholics Anonymous, Narcotics Anonymous, or receive
the help of friends and family, or just hit bottom, or get frightened enough or inspired enough to finally confront our
life, everyone stops addictive behaviors in exactly the same way: They just stop. For some people it takes many
intermediate steps. I suggest it saves some time and some pain to finally face that we can control our behavior-how we
move our arms and legs-what we do. It can be incredibly difficult at times, but there is a vast difference between
difficult and impossible. Even if we don't feel like doing it-even if we feel terrible, physically or emotionally, for a
while, we can stop any way. As far as what brings people to that critical point of realization-just do it-when we're ready
to hear it, we'll do it. Until then, we will spend endless hours working on the internal solutions whether couched in
psychological or New Age mythology.
Q: This willingness to "just do it" seems to be an important dimension of self-mastery according to nearly everyone
we've spoken with for this issue. Do you think the "just do it" approach is also an ingredient of enlightenment?
DM: I wonder if the people at Nike realized what a profound slogan they were popularizing. "Just do it" serves as a
foundation element in the "practice of enlightenment" as I describe it in Everyday Enlightenment. It involves the
recognition that we can, and ultimately must, control our own behavior-but we can also do so under the dominion of
our will or a higher will working through us. "Surrendering to God" or surrendering to a higher will is another way of
saying, "Bring out the best and the highest within you; connect to the divine power, wisdom, and love inside and let it
expand into the world." So ultimately, "just doing it" and "surrendering to God" may serve the same ends. Both are
keys to what I call the "practice of everyday enlightenment," but "just doing it" is a bit easier to understand and apply.
Q: For this issue of our magazine, we also spoke with one of the most prominent exponents of the human potential
movement-Michael Murphy, the founder of Esalen-who believes that contemporary advances in our understanding of
the workings of the human mind and body, and of how mastery is achieved, should be seen in the context of the
evolution of the human race as a whole. He suggests that the pioneering efforts of extraordinary people in many fields
reflect the possibility of a transformation over time of our entire species. Do you see your own work in such an
evolutionary context?
DM: Sure. All things change and evolve. But I don't see theories of ultimate evolution as relevant today, now, in this
moment as we face the challenges of everyday life. Michael Murphy was influenced by Sri Aurobindo, whose
teachings very much involve our eventual evolution into super-conscious beings with greater powers and so forth.
Anthony Robbins, a popular speaker and author, studied many different personal growth arenas and worked with
businesses and sales applying what he calls "neuro-associative conditioning," another name for the NLP [Neuro-
Linguistic Programming] approaches which are part of his lineage.
There is a proverb that reminds us, "One Light, but many lamps." Each of us-Michael Murphy, Anthony Robbins,
myself, and many other teachers, serve as lamps for different people. This seems positive, because different people
need different approaches to life. That's why we have more than one book in the library; we may enjoy different radio
stations as we may prefer different teachers or teachings based upon our present values and needs-and yes, perhaps on our own current level of spiritual evolution. Those who tune in to Michael's station are a little more interested than I am in powers, or siddhis [supernormal abilities], in sports and in other realms.
With that brief tangential commentary, let me return to the topic you proposed: We humans may indeed evolve
abilities of various kinds, which would be interesting. Personally, I'd enjoy the ability to levitate, but until that time I
have to make do with occasional levity. I'd also like to be able to bi-locate (be in two places at once); any parent with a
couple of kids can appreciate that ability. But all that has very little to do with enlightenment. Unusual powers,
kundalini manifestations, kriyas [inspired trembling and spontaneous yoga postures and mudras or positions of the
hands and body], and psychic abilities may represent a kind of psychophysical breakthrough or purification, but many
wise and great masters didn't manifest such things. I don't think super-powers are requisites of enlightenment.
I was a gymnast and I exhibited certain "powers," and did feats that other people couldn't do. Others seemed
impressed by my abilities. But they didn't have anything to do with kindness, happiness, or love. They didn't make me
more enlightened. There were just functional skills. If humans can learn to throw footballs twice as far or jump higher
or run faster-if our brains get more powerful or we even learn to move things with our minds-I think that's all
functionally very nice. Maybe new powers would even help us to create a more enlightened society. Maybe. But I don't
personally equate powers with, or regard them as precursors to, realizing the punch line to God's cosmic joke.
In Way of the Peaceful Warrior, my old mentor Socrates once said, "Your challenge is not to be extraordinary; it
is to be ordinary." When author Aldous Huxley, a man who had studied many spiritual traditions and teachings, was
near death, one of his students asked, After all this time, all of your studies and research and practice, what have you
learned?" Huxley replied, "I'm a little embarrassed to say that I can summarize it all with the words, 'Try to be a little
kinder.'" Maybe kindness is the greatest power of all.
Q: What do you see as the highest expression of human potential?
DM: Our human potential involves everything we've been talking about-awareness, kindness, humor, realizing our
transcendental unity with God and with one another-and not just realizing it but living it. We tend to realize things long
before we live them. We've all had realizations and understandings and insights but it can take ten years to bring even a simple insight into our life. So living our truth, doing it, not just realizing it, I would say, would be our highest
potential.
Q: Are you still striving for enlightenment?
DM: No. At some point in time, I surrendered that, too. I don't know when it happened, but I became more interested
in bringing smiles to other people's faces than to my own. I remember my heart now and then, and do what I do. I'm
okay with the present moment. I mean that quite sincerely.
Dan Millman is a former world champion athlete, university coach, and college professor whose eleven books,
including Way of the Peaceful Warrior, The Life You Were Born to Live, Everyday Enlightenment, The Laws of
Spirit, and Living on Purpose have inspired millions of readers in more than 20 languages worldwide.
Dan's talks have influenced men and women from all walks of life, including leaders in the fields of business and
finance, health, psychology, education, politics, entertainment, sports, and the arts.
For further information about Dan's work, you can visit his website at: www.danmillman.com
Q: What is your definition of "self-mastery"?
DM: Self-mastery involves the recognition what we are not responsible for-the thoughts that enter our mind and flow
out, and the emotions that pass like the weather-and also what we are responsible for, which is our behavior. My view
of self-mastery focuses on acting with kindness whether or not we're in the mood, based on three principles: accept
your emotions; know your purpose; then do what needs to be done-whether or not you happen to feel like it at the time.
As I see it, we humans are filled with tendencies. We tend to be lazy or to overwork. We tend to let our emotions
drive our behavior. We tend to indulge or to deny ourselves. We tend to be passive or aggressive, lackadaisical or
obsessive, to act without thinking or to think without acting. We tend to deny or avoid dealing with problems until the
eleventh hour or a crisis. We tend to be self-centered, defensive and resentful.
Daily life-spiritual life-tests us, teaches us, challenges us to transcend our tendencies by observing the
consequences of our actions through this natural, evolutionary process of living and learning. Self-mastery appears in
those moments when we subordinate our little will-our personal tendencies and preferences-to the dominion of our
higher will, higher self, higher integrity or higher ideals. It's a conscious movement from "What's in it for me?" to
"What will serve the highest good of all involved?" George Bernard Shaw put it well when he said, "Never mind likes
and dislikes; they are of no consequence. Just do what must be done. This may not be happiness, but it is greatness."
Q: And how would you define "enlightenment"?
DM: Arbitrarily we can say that there are two realities. A transcendent reality and a conventional reality. For example,
the idea that "we are all One" is certainly not true from a conventional viewpoint. If I stub my toe, it doesn't hurt you. If I have a feeling or a thought, you may not have the same feeling or thought. So, conventionally speaking, we're
separate individuated beings, physically, emotionally and mentally. But transcendentally speaking, from the viewpoint
of higher truth, we are each and all the same Awareness shining through all these different gift wrappings, these
different eyes. At that level, we are One. Different truths operate at different levels-conventional truths and
transcendental truths.
Now if we're talking about enlightenment, traditionally speaking, we refer to a transcendent Realization that has
nothing to do with fixing one's personality, making things work, succeeding, reaching goals, getting what we think we
need or want to make ourselves happy, or even achieving self-mastery. Transcendental Enlightenment has been
described in many different ways-seeing life from the bigger picture, from a viewpoint at the ends of the universe,
through the eyes of God-as a sense of union, communion, unity, and freedom. But really it's beyond words, which is
why it's been described in so many different ways. Lao Tsu said, "Those who know do not speak, and those who speak
do not know," because we can only point to it. I've had glimpses of that transcendent state.
But I believe this issue of enlightenment becomes more clear if we view life as a series of moments-I often say
I've never met an intelligent or neurotic or enlightened being; I've only met people who have more intelligent, neurotic
or enlightened moments. I've studied with different masters who were acknowledged by many to be enlightened-or who had declared themselves so and seemed to manifest a presence, charisma, or capacities that some associate with
enlightenment. But I've also seen these masters in what struck me personally as some unenlightened moments. It may
be more realistic to say that we have a responsibility to realize and live our enlightenment from moment to moment
rather than thinking that we'll just have an experience and say, "From now on, that's it. I'm enlightened."
Q: You seem to be suggesting that while enlightenment is in one sense beyond this world, it also must be lived in this
world in a very practical way. From that perspective, what do you see as the relationship between enlightenment and
self-mastery?
DM: The Indian saint Ramakrishna once said, "If you try to open a walnut when the shell is green, it's almost
impossible, but if you wait until the walnut is ripe, it opens with just a tap." Life is our ripening process. I view the
quest for self-mastery as a conventional ripening process -something we can learn, do, bring into the world. It occurs in
the context of everyday life and involves our functional human capacities-our will-and leads toward our human
potential. The quest for self-mastery provides our preparation or ripening. But self-mastery in itself has nothing to do
with enlightenment; in a sense, nothing we do has to do with enlightenment! It is by definition a transcendent
Realization that I believe that comes by grace. At some point, somebody or something or God working through
somebody or something provides the tap when we are ripe. We can not achieve enlightenment by hard work, but we
can prepare ourselves, set the foundation, pray, then wait. The rest is on God's timetable.
There's a proverb that goes, "There's God, then there's not paying attention." What I often mention in my seminars
is something Rabbi Hillel once said: "There are three mysteries in this world: air to the birds, water to the fish, and
humanity to itself." Even now we are immersed in Spirit, whether we call it "God" or "beauty" or "inspiration." After
all, it's not as if the weather person on the radio or television says, "Twenty percent chance of rain and forty percent
Spirit out today." Spirit, God, is always here but we don't notice. We don't commune with That because our attention is trapped by issues like, "How am I going to pay for the car repair, get to the appointment on time, deal with my
relationships and emotional issues, my physical issues, my body?" And on and on. Self-mastery serves as a
preparation for noticing God, for communion, for Self-Realization, by cleaning up unfinished business, by confronting
and resolving those issues which monopolize or imprison our attention. As we function cleanly and clearly in the
world, we liberate our attention to notice God or spirit or beauty. In this sense, self-mastery is our ripening process.
Life isn't a neat, orderly, step-by-step process toward enlightenment. Life doesn't offer guarantees. So self-mastery
doesn't necessarily leads to enlightenment. But there are laws of reality I've learned from my athletic training, and one
of those laws is that if you prepare well, you're more likely to get desired outcomes than if you don't prepare well. But
ultimately, we are not in control. Michael Jordan cannot control whether he makes a basket every time. But he can
control whether he takes a shot. That's the best we can do in our own lives-to take the shot. Doing so will vastly
increase the likelihood of making the basket over not taking the shot. But there is the other side of this issue, which is
that we trying too hard may be counter-productive. Trying implies tension and attachment. Remember those five rules
for living: First, show up; second, pay attention; third, live your truth; fourth, do your best, and fifth, don't be attached
to outcomes (which we can't control).
We all know that life involves work-that it can be difficult-a form of spiritual weightlifting. Life tests and teaches
us, tempers our spirits. Difficulties are how we learn and grow, and we need to appreciate that. The concept of
achieving self-mastery is less important to me than the effort, the quest. A man named Shoma Morita, M.D. once said,
"Effort is success." Maybe that's why St. Augustine remarked, "Lord, I pray not for a lighter load but for stronger
shoulders." Everyday life can give us stronger shoulders.
Q: Your new book is called Everyday Enlightenment. Is the "everyday enlightenment" that you've written about the
same as or different from the ultimate spiritual realization described by the world's wisdom traditions?
DM: I would say they are different. The practice of enlightenment I give at the end of my book involves conventional
enlightenment-enlightened behavior-self-mastery. Not the same as the ultimate Realization described in the spiritual
traditions. However, I recommend this practice as a constructive way to spend one's time, one's life, while waiting for
the Cosmic State.
There are two great schools of thought operating in our world, it seems to me. And they've been operating since
the time of the ancient Greeks and long before. There's the Idealist School and the Realist School. The churches, for
example, tend to be more idealist. The Catholic Church isn't wrong in its dictums; it's just idealistic. The Church is
there not to compromise or be run by popular opinion, but to draw us to our highest ideals. To tell young people to
"just abstain from sex until married" is perhaps ultimately best-or at least until one is in a mature and committed
relationship. But do we actually live this way? Few of us, I can tell you. So at the same time as we might offer advice
or guidance in accord with our highest ideals, it may also be realistic to educate them about safe sex and contraception
rather than pretending it's not going to happen, and make sure they have access to condoms in case they do engage. As the Arabic proverb goes, "Trust in God but tie your camel."
Some people hold to the idealist view that we should wait for "genuine enlightenment," the transcendent
Realization of God. That's fine, but we may wait lifetimes for that and not pay a great deal of attention to what we're
doing in the meantime. When I refer to practicing "everyday enlightenment," I'm speaking about actually consciously
asking, "How would an enlightened being act in this moment?"-then behaving that way. Someone might ask , "You
suggest that I pretend I'm enlightened?" I would respond, "Yes. Pretend--like a shy young boy pretending he's confident and asking a young lady to dance--like a terrified soldier who pretends he's courageous while saving a comrade under fire. By "pretending"-by behaving as if we were enlightened beings, we find our breath relaxing, our body relaxing and opening, our faces smiling- even though our internal reality might be bummed out about something. We might have depressed emotions and still smile at someone or do a kind deed, because that is what an enlightened being might do in that situation. Of course, we need to avoid acting out a caricature of "enlightenment" like the Kwai Chang Caine character on the Kung Fu TV series. It doesn't mean we deny our reality or fool ourselves, nor is it a form of pretense. Saying "I am enlightened" doesn't make one enlightened any more than saying "I am a pineapple" makes one a
pineapple. Enlightenment doesn't mean always acting blissful or talking in a certain way. That would not be realistic.
Although "everyday enlightenment" is not the same as Enlightenment in the ultimate sense, it's a good practice to
adapt our bodies and minds, to prepare them, to make them more transparent, to become a servant in the world while we're waiting for our insides to be filled with light. I think this provides a very meaningful practice-that we can, in any moment we remember, play the role of an enlightened being.
Although it may sound presumptuous, I suggest that the "practice of enlightenment" as described in my book is
the highest practice any human being can do, because it incorporates all other practices one might do. If you are
meditating, for example, you can say, "How would an enlightened being meditate?"-and meditate that way. It's based
on the fundamental presumption that we can control (and are responsible for) our behaviors.
One question I ask people is: "Would you rather live with an enlightened being who acted crazy or a crazy person
who acted enlightened?" I don't offer an answer, but suggest that it is a very interesting question to consider.
Q: One of the things we've observed in the course of our exploration for this issue is that individuals who have attained
either self-mastery or enlightenment always seem to emanate an extraordinary degree of confidence, a sense of being
unbound by limitation. In those who have "mastered themselves," that confidence seems to arise from the discovery
that they have the power to break through seeming limitations and do things they never imagined they could, the
discovery of an overwhelming sense of "I Can." Whereas in enlightened individuals, it seems to arise not from the
discovery of their own personal power but from the deep, mysterious and life changing realization of their essential
unity with the very ground and source of all existence that you alluded to before-a realization not of "I Can" but of "I
Am." What do you see as the difference between the confidence of the self-master and the confidence of the
enlightened person?
DM: Well, I would say that one kind of confidence is conditional and the other is unconditional. One type of selfconfidence involves the smaller self; the other is confidence not in self but in Reality or God or Spirit working in, as,
and through the "self." Enlightened Self-Confidence is not based on a great self-image or confidence in one's
capacities, but in an ultimate trust in whatever happens, and a complete unconcern over whether one is liked, because
one rests in the knowledge that one is loved. No, not that one is loved, but that one is Love. Most of us want to feel
good about ourselves, want to feel self-esteem and self-confidence. In fact, most of our "search for enlightenment" is
motivated by wanting to feel good in some ultimate sense.
My years in athletics taught me that even if you are unsure you can accomplish something; even if you are filled
with self doubt-if you work toward it and discover that not only can you do it but that you have done it, you may
generalize this realization to other challenges in life. You may reason, "I really didn't think I could accomplish the last
task, but I did; maybe I can meet this next challenge as well."
Q: How does this distinction between the realization of "I Can" and the realization of "I Am" accord with your own
experience?
DM: Having a sense of "I Can," seems positive from a conventional viewpoint. I would say it's preferable for us to say
or feel "I can," than "I can't." Henry Ford said, "Those who believe they can and those who believe they can't are both
right." We're more likely to attempt something we believe we can, or might be able to, accomplish. But "I Can" is not
in the same ballpark as the profound faith based on the knowledge that our souls rest safe and secure in the arms of
Spirit. I don't necessarily choose to use the words, "I Am." I don't relate to "I Am-ness," personally, because it has a
level of abstraction about it. I can get my arms around "I Can." To me, what matters about human life on every is what
we do. There's a lot of New Age talk about beingness. Teachers advise, "Don't do. Just be." While we live we are going
to be, to exist. But we are also going to do, to move, to act. "What is this be? It sounds good, but what does it mean?"
Everything that has been accomplished by human beings involves human doings. Still, I do acknowledge that the
transcendent state of Enlightenment-the ultimate goal and endpoint of human evolution--doesn't itself depend on our
consciously doing anything. In that moment, there is only Being (even as all the doings continue).
These ideas of being and doing relate to the two "solutions" to human life. The "Western Solution" to happiness is
outward achievement. Many people have become disillusioned with this extroverted solution-they have seen that
success didn't make them or their parents happy-so they have become attracted to the "Eastern Solution" which
involves going inside, meditating, doing internal spiritual practices. They aim for an internal kind of success so that one
day, maybe in this lifetime or another lifetime, when they fix their insides, get centered, attain inner peace, they might
achieve or earn the "state" of transcendental Enlightenment. Meanwhile, they may ignore their kids, let their functional life--their finances, relationships, or education, go down the toilet. So we're waiting for that cosmic illumination, we might as well behave kindly and live as many enlightened moments as we can, even if we know it's "pretending." Why not fake it until we make it? While we're aspiring, let's do some perspiring-roll up our sleeves and become willing to play the most challenging of all roles in the theater of life-an enlightened man or woman. So the important questions to me are not "Am I in my beingness?" But rather, "Do I live well? Am I kind to other people? Do I occasionally pick up some litter on the street?
You know, when I'm on the road, in another city or country, I can't know how my words impact people--but when
I leave a city, I can tell you this--it's a little cleaner. Little things like that can make a big difference.
Q: Another observation we've made about the attainment of self-mastery is that it seems to always include a movement from a negative, limited sense of self to a deeply positive sense of self. Traditional teachings of enlightenment, on the other hand, tell us that the ultimate human attainment is the discovery of "no self," the realization that our true nature, who we really are, is beyond any notion of self, positive or negative, and that it is in fact the very idea that we exist as a separate individual at all that inhibits us from discovering true freedom. Do you agree that ultimately any fixed notion of self, including even one that is extremely positive, has to be given up if we are to become truly free?
DM: Yes, except I'd change the words. Rather than suggesting that the self has to be "given up," I'd say, "seen
through." To me, the best way to transcend the ego is not by somehow trying to get rid of it, but by applying both
insight and humor. These are the two best spiritual tools to transcend the ego. I use my ego to learn, to teach and to
serve. It's just my personality level. And while I take my work seriously, I don't take this "Dan Millman" character
seriously.
Q: When you use the word "ego" here, are you referring to the separate sense of self?
DM: What we call "ego" is our conscious self, our sense of identity. As newborn infants, we have no clearly defined
boundaries or sense of self. We exist in a dreamlike world where we are also our mother, and everyone else. In
growing up we develop this sense of self that ends at the skin.
In India, people called "masts" have no sense of separate identity. They just sit there; people have to feed and care
for them. In the West we might refer to them as "catatonic," but in Indian spiritual tradition they are treated as special
beings because they have no ego, no sense of a self that needs to do, achieve, or even survive. That's one kind of
"egolessness." Neither newborn infants nor certain Zen masters have much of an ego. The difference is that in the
infant the ego is undeveloped, and in a Zen master the ego is presumably transcended.
Motivational speakers and others who help others to develop a sense of confidence-to find out that they can--help
the ego get what it thinks it needs to be happy. This approach may be popular and attractive to many people, but in a
sense it is a limited practice-at best perhaps a steppingstone along the path.
Q: Both in the quest for self-mastery and in the quest for enlightenment, it seems that one almost inevitably encounters many internal obstacles, the foremost of which is probably fear. In fact, you devoted a chapter of your book to this. In the pursuit of self-mastery, it manifests most often as, say, fear of challenge or fear of change. And descriptions of the quest for enlightenment often include an encounter with the existential fear of leaving behind all familiar reference points, of leaping into the unknown. In Everyday Enlightenment you state that while we cannot control fear or make it go away, "we can overcome any fear." What, in your view, is the key to overcoming fear?
DM: Simply put, in the words of Susan Jeffers, "feel the fear and do it anyway" -doing what it is we need to do. It has
nothing to do with finding methods to make the fear go away and feel better before we can act. Sometimes fear does
diminish over time or with practice. Competence breeds confidence. If I dive off a ten meter tower, I'm going to be
afraid the first number of times I try it, but eventually I'll become accustomed to it, learn how to do it well, safely,
consistently -I won't feel afraid anymore-until I try a new dive which I haven't yet accomplished. Fear comes and goes
and, as does any emotion. We don't have any direct control over it in the sense of being able to just will it away or
banish it. It's quite natural, even appropriate, to feel fear in many situations. When someone asks, "When should I let
fear guide me and listen to it, and when should I ignore it and act anyway?" I offer the following: When the fear is
objective-that is fear for our physical safety-when we might die or be injured, we need to listen to the fear, let it be our
guide and remind us to prepare well, be patient, stay alert, take precautions or avoid the situation. But if a fear is
subjective-fear of embarrassment or shame, looking foolish, being rejected, or fear of the unknown-we need to
acknowledge the fear, but act anyway.
When someone says, "I can't do something because I'm too afraid," they're usually lying to themselves. For
example, I can't levitate or walk through walls. But if I say, "I can't speak in public because I'm too afraid," or "I can't
do this or that because it's just too hard," what I'm really saying is, "I choose not to do it because it makes me feel too
uncomfortable." That's fine; we have free will and can make choices. But let's not fool ourselves that the fear is
somehow stopping us. And when we say, "I'm a phobic-I've been diagnosed," all we're really saying is, "I'm really
uncomfortable." So we get flu-like symptoms-highly unpleasant, to be sure-our heart may palpitate; we feel nauseous;
we get pale; we may hyperventilate; our knees may shake. But we can still do it. We can take a deep, slow breath; we
can relax our body; that is in our control. And then we can do what we fear. It may not feel pleasant, but if it's our goal
to do it, we can.
Q: In your work, you seem to place a great deal of emphasis on the power of self-discipline, on how conscious,
directed action can transform our lives. In Everyday Enlightenment, you at one point even state that "no matter what
you might learn in this or any similar book, living effectively comes down to applying your will to control your
behavior," which seems to be a perfect summation of the essence of self-mastery. In traditional enlightenment
teachings, there is also an emphasis on the need for self-discipline or self-control, yet in those traditions, that need for
self-control is always secondary to and in the service of the ultimate demand for profound surrender, for a complete
relinquishing of control in order to allow a force greater than oneself to move one's life. In the end, which do you feel is more important for the individual who wants to be free: surrender or self-control?
DM: I acknowledge the spiritual supremacy of surrender. As I express in my book, The Laws of Spirit, in "The Law of
Surrender," surrendering to life, to God, to this moment, can be the most assertive, creative, intelligent act anyone can
do. But when I surrender, how do I know whether I'm surrendering to God or surrendering to my internal impulses?
Does surrender have anything to do with doing what I think is best in the moment? If somebody is yelling at me, and
my impulse is to not be kind but I'm kind, did I just surrender to God or did I apply my will? Thus, surrender versus
applying one's will remains a paradox. If God is in me, then is not my will also God's will? This is delicate and shaky
ground, for we cannot ultimately know what is for our highest good or learning, or for the highest good for all
concerned. Still, free will is a God-given ability, and I believe that it is important that we apply our will-to use our
intelligence and our awareness in doing what seems best in each moment. Doing what is best may in a sense also be
surrendering to our higher will or a higher will. So do we call it self-control or surrender? When we pray, "Thy will be
done," is Thy will necessarily or always different from my will?
Surrender may be an ultimate spiritual practice, but how we apply it is an artful process, I think. In the same way, it is
easy to advise people to, "Be kind," but it takes wisdom to know what kind of behavior constitutes "kindness" in a
given situation. Some of us tend to do things like help old ladies across the street without noticing whether they
actually wanted to cross. Or if our spouse is upset with us, do we remain calm and smile blissfully and calmly at them?
That may not, in reflection, be the kindest thing to do. It may be kinder to yell back if they want to engage you with
passion. So surrender, like kindness, is an artful process that requires awareness, patience, and practice.
Q: In your chapter, "Reclaim Your Will," you make an interesting distinction. You state that if we want to change the
course of our lives, there are two routes we can take. One, "you can direct your energy and attention towards trying to
fix your mind, find your focus, affirm your power, free your emotions and visualize positive outcomes so that you can
finally develop the confidence to display the courage, to discover the determination, to make the commitment, to feel
sufficiently motivated to do what it is you need to do." Or, two, "you can just do it." Now, the first approach appears to
be much more popular, yet the second option obviously sounds preferable. What changes within the individual who
makes that decision to "just do it"?
DM: Most of us learn to "just do it" after exhausting all the other short-cuts and easy ways and psychological tricks and
motivational techniques don't work. After we've used up our subliminal tapes, self-hypnosis, affirmations,
visualizations, inspirational speakers, encouraging words, positive self-talk, we are left with the existential question,
"Will I do it, or not?" We finally confront reality. Ultimately, we don't have to "reclaim our will" or "find our
confidence" or "develop our discipline." We don't even have to believe we can do it or say we can do it. We just have
to do it. Doing what needs doing doesn't require any internal state or feeling. You just have to do it. But we have this
persistent hope, this stubborn wish, that we will find a shortcut, an easier way. We'd rather work on our insides for a
few days or years or lifetimes. But what does life come down to? How do we turn what we know into what we
actually do?
One reviewer of my book said, "Millman's much too simplistic. For addicts, he recommends they "just stop" rather
than finding a proper treatment program." In reality, I do recommend treatment programs for some people. But it still
comes to this: Whether we do a twelve-step program, join Alcoholics Anonymous, Narcotics Anonymous, or receive
the help of friends and family, or just hit bottom, or get frightened enough or inspired enough to finally confront our
life, everyone stops addictive behaviors in exactly the same way: They just stop. For some people it takes many
intermediate steps. I suggest it saves some time and some pain to finally face that we can control our behavior-how we
move our arms and legs-what we do. It can be incredibly difficult at times, but there is a vast difference between
difficult and impossible. Even if we don't feel like doing it-even if we feel terrible, physically or emotionally, for a
while, we can stop any way. As far as what brings people to that critical point of realization-just do it-when we're ready
to hear it, we'll do it. Until then, we will spend endless hours working on the internal solutions whether couched in
psychological or New Age mythology.
Q: This willingness to "just do it" seems to be an important dimension of self-mastery according to nearly everyone
we've spoken with for this issue. Do you think the "just do it" approach is also an ingredient of enlightenment?
DM: I wonder if the people at Nike realized what a profound slogan they were popularizing. "Just do it" serves as a
foundation element in the "practice of enlightenment" as I describe it in Everyday Enlightenment. It involves the
recognition that we can, and ultimately must, control our own behavior-but we can also do so under the dominion of
our will or a higher will working through us. "Surrendering to God" or surrendering to a higher will is another way of
saying, "Bring out the best and the highest within you; connect to the divine power, wisdom, and love inside and let it
expand into the world." So ultimately, "just doing it" and "surrendering to God" may serve the same ends. Both are
keys to what I call the "practice of everyday enlightenment," but "just doing it" is a bit easier to understand and apply.
Q: For this issue of our magazine, we also spoke with one of the most prominent exponents of the human potential
movement-Michael Murphy, the founder of Esalen-who believes that contemporary advances in our understanding of
the workings of the human mind and body, and of how mastery is achieved, should be seen in the context of the
evolution of the human race as a whole. He suggests that the pioneering efforts of extraordinary people in many fields
reflect the possibility of a transformation over time of our entire species. Do you see your own work in such an
evolutionary context?
DM: Sure. All things change and evolve. But I don't see theories of ultimate evolution as relevant today, now, in this
moment as we face the challenges of everyday life. Michael Murphy was influenced by Sri Aurobindo, whose
teachings very much involve our eventual evolution into super-conscious beings with greater powers and so forth.
Anthony Robbins, a popular speaker and author, studied many different personal growth arenas and worked with
businesses and sales applying what he calls "neuro-associative conditioning," another name for the NLP [Neuro-
Linguistic Programming] approaches which are part of his lineage.
There is a proverb that reminds us, "One Light, but many lamps." Each of us-Michael Murphy, Anthony Robbins,
myself, and many other teachers, serve as lamps for different people. This seems positive, because different people
need different approaches to life. That's why we have more than one book in the library; we may enjoy different radio
stations as we may prefer different teachers or teachings based upon our present values and needs-and yes, perhaps on our own current level of spiritual evolution. Those who tune in to Michael's station are a little more interested than I am in powers, or siddhis [supernormal abilities], in sports and in other realms.
With that brief tangential commentary, let me return to the topic you proposed: We humans may indeed evolve
abilities of various kinds, which would be interesting. Personally, I'd enjoy the ability to levitate, but until that time I
have to make do with occasional levity. I'd also like to be able to bi-locate (be in two places at once); any parent with a
couple of kids can appreciate that ability. But all that has very little to do with enlightenment. Unusual powers,
kundalini manifestations, kriyas [inspired trembling and spontaneous yoga postures and mudras or positions of the
hands and body], and psychic abilities may represent a kind of psychophysical breakthrough or purification, but many
wise and great masters didn't manifest such things. I don't think super-powers are requisites of enlightenment.
I was a gymnast and I exhibited certain "powers," and did feats that other people couldn't do. Others seemed
impressed by my abilities. But they didn't have anything to do with kindness, happiness, or love. They didn't make me
more enlightened. There were just functional skills. If humans can learn to throw footballs twice as far or jump higher
or run faster-if our brains get more powerful or we even learn to move things with our minds-I think that's all
functionally very nice. Maybe new powers would even help us to create a more enlightened society. Maybe. But I don't
personally equate powers with, or regard them as precursors to, realizing the punch line to God's cosmic joke.
In Way of the Peaceful Warrior, my old mentor Socrates once said, "Your challenge is not to be extraordinary; it
is to be ordinary." When author Aldous Huxley, a man who had studied many spiritual traditions and teachings, was
near death, one of his students asked, After all this time, all of your studies and research and practice, what have you
learned?" Huxley replied, "I'm a little embarrassed to say that I can summarize it all with the words, 'Try to be a little
kinder.'" Maybe kindness is the greatest power of all.
Q: What do you see as the highest expression of human potential?
DM: Our human potential involves everything we've been talking about-awareness, kindness, humor, realizing our
transcendental unity with God and with one another-and not just realizing it but living it. We tend to realize things long
before we live them. We've all had realizations and understandings and insights but it can take ten years to bring even a simple insight into our life. So living our truth, doing it, not just realizing it, I would say, would be our highest
potential.
Q: Are you still striving for enlightenment?
DM: No. At some point in time, I surrendered that, too. I don't know when it happened, but I became more interested
in bringing smiles to other people's faces than to my own. I remember my heart now and then, and do what I do. I'm
okay with the present moment. I mean that quite sincerely.
Dan Millman is a former world champion athlete, university coach, and college professor whose eleven books,
including Way of the Peaceful Warrior, The Life You Were Born to Live, Everyday Enlightenment, The Laws of
Spirit, and Living on Purpose have inspired millions of readers in more than 20 languages worldwide.
Dan's talks have influenced men and women from all walks of life, including leaders in the fields of business and
finance, health, psychology, education, politics, entertainment, sports, and the arts.
For further information about Dan's work, you can visit his website at: www.danmillman.com
Saturday, March 26, 2011
The Empty Mind
During practice it is important to keep centered by focusing the mind so that you could remain calm and act naturally. In Aikido it is referred to as a stillness within movement. It is a difficult concept to understand.
Master Moriteru Ueshiba (grand-son of Morihei Ueshiba – founder of Aikido):
This is a difficult question . During practice if your mind is troubled with various matters like your daily life you will be unable to concentrate. The founder talked of this as the state of mushin or being in synchronization with the space around you.
In Aikido we use various expressions to describe this as becoming one with your space or the universe. When you practice and your mind is still or in mushin your movements are spontaneous and in premeditated silence almost a state of nothingness being combined with the universe. The founder referred to this as “Sumikiri” … or being a state of stillness or a clear state of mind. Sumikiri is reached through practice of using mushin and concentration.
This is not easily achieved. You can only reach this state by constant daily practice.
"The Empty Mind" documentary
Master Moriteru Ueshiba (grand-son of Morihei Ueshiba – founder of Aikido):
This is a difficult question . During practice if your mind is troubled with various matters like your daily life you will be unable to concentrate. The founder talked of this as the state of mushin or being in synchronization with the space around you.
In Aikido we use various expressions to describe this as becoming one with your space or the universe. When you practice and your mind is still or in mushin your movements are spontaneous and in premeditated silence almost a state of nothingness being combined with the universe. The founder referred to this as “Sumikiri” … or being a state of stillness or a clear state of mind. Sumikiri is reached through practice of using mushin and concentration.
This is not easily achieved. You can only reach this state by constant daily practice.
"The Empty Mind" documentary
Sveika mityba
Susumavus įvairių tyrimų rezultatus paaiškėjo, kad žmogaus sveikata 20 proc. priklauso nuo paveldimumo, dar 20 proc. - nuo ekologinės aplinkos, tik 8 proc. - nuo medicinos, o 50 proc. lemia gyvenimo būdas – iš kurio didžiają dalį užima sveika mityba.
Mityba – organizmo veiklos sritis, apimanti apsirūpinimą maisto medžiagomis. Pagrindinės maisto medžiagos yra baltymai, angliavandeniai bei riebalai, kurie, norint užtikrinti gerą sveikatą, turi būti vartojami tam tikromis proporcijomis. Šios proporcijos priklauso ir nuo žmogaus gyvenimo būdo: aktyvesnis gyvenimo būdas reiškia didesnį energijos sunaudojimą ir didesnį jos poreikį.
Baltymai
Organizmas vartoja baltymus audiniams, pvz.: odai, raumenims, vidaus organams, plaukams ir nagams, auginti ir atstatyti. Baltymai sudaryti iš aminorūgščių.
Baltymai gaunami su gyvulinės ir augalinės kilmės maistu. Pagrindiniai pripažinti baltymų šaltiniai yra mėsa, pienas, kiaušiniai ir žuvis. Nemažai baltymų galima gauti su pupelėmis, riešutais, grūdiniais maisto produktais.
Vidutiniam suaugusiam žmogui per dieną reikia nuo 45 g (moterims) iki 53 g (vyrams) baltymų. Per didelis baltymų suvartojimas kenkia organizmui, nes padidėja alergijų pavojus, pasunkėja kepenų, inkstų veikla, sąnariuose gali kauptis druskos. Jei baltymų organizmas gauna nepakankamai, tai sumažėja atsparumas infekcinėms ligoms.
Angliavandeniai
Tai lengviausiai prieinamas energijos šaltinis. Pagal sveikos mitybos koncepciją, angliavandenių kiekis paros maisto racione turi būti keturis kartus didesnis nei baltymų, taip pat keturis kartus didesnis nei riebalų.
Maistas, kuriame gausu angliavandenių yra duona, grūdų produktai, bulvės.
Angliavandeniai – svarbūs ne tik kaip energijos šaltinis, bet jie yra audinių ir ląstelių sudėtyje.
Riebalai
Tai viena svarbiausių maisto medžiagų, kuri yra visų žmogaus organizmo ląstelių sudėtyje. Riebalai yra geras energijos šaltinis, dalyvauja termoreguliacijos procesuose, maistui suteikia juslines savybes (skonį, kvapą, spalvą), lėtina virškinimą, tuo būdu atitolina alkio jausmą. Su riebalais organizmas gauna ir riebaluose tirpių vitaminų – A, D, E, K bei pagerina šių vitaminų įsisavinimą.
Paprastai bendras suvartojamų riebalų kiekis turėtų būti apie 95 g per dieną vyrams ir 75 g moterims. Augalinės kilmės riebalai turėtų sudaryti vieną trečdalį, o gyvūninės – du trečdalius riebalinių produktų normos.
Vitaminai ir mineralinės medžiagos
Vitaminai yra maistingosios medžiagos, kurios yra ypač svarbios normaliam Jūsų organizmo funkcionavimui. Jie yra būtini sveikam vystymuisi, normaliai medžiagų apykaitai ir gyvybiškumui.
Mineralinės medžiagos taip pat yra labai svarbios ląstelių metabolizmui, fiziniam vystymuisi, nervinėms funkcijoms ir mąstymo procesams. Vitaminai be mineralinių medžiagų yra niekas – jie paprasčiausiai negali funkcionuoti be jų. Nepaprastai svarbu yra gauti pakankamą kiekį mineralinių medžiagų kiekvieną dieną, nes Jūsų organizmas negali jų pasigaminti pats.
Šių maistinių medžiagų organizmas gauna iš šviežių vaisių ir daržovių, riešutų, pupų, mėsos, žuvies. Subalansuotas maistas teikia visus organizmui reikalingus vitaminus bei mineralines medžiagas.
Teisinga mityba
Svarbu užtikrinti, kad valgomas įvairus maistas, siekiant išlaikyti žmogui rekomenduojamą santykį:
• Bent 40 % angliavandenių
• Apie 30 % baltymų
• Ne daugiau nei 30 % riebalų
Per dieną suvartojamo maisto kiekis, išreiškiamas kilokalorijomis (kcal) arba kilodžauliais (kJ), priklauso nuo žmogaus amžiaus, lyties ir gyvenimo būdo.
Mityba ir sveikata
Žmogaus sveikata yra glaudžiai susijusi su jo mityba. Netinkama mityba gali sukelti ar įtakoti trumpalaikius sutrikimus ar ilgalaikius susirgimus.
Maistinių medžiagų perteklius kaupiamas organizme riebalų pavidale ir sukelia nutukimą. Nutukimo sukeltos komplikacijos kai kuriose ekonomiškai išsivysčiusiose šalyse yra viena iš dažniausių mirties priežasčių (pvz., JAV yra antroji mirties priežastis po rūkymo sukeltų ligų).
Pusiausvyros nebuvimas tarp organizmo su maistu įgyjamos ir veikloje sunaudojamos energijos yra žalingas organizmui. Maistinių medžiagų trūkumas (badaujant arba valgant neįvairų maistą) gali baigtis sunkiomis ligomis.
http://lt.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mityba
http://www.imunitetas.lt/index.php?aid=3043
Mityba – organizmo veiklos sritis, apimanti apsirūpinimą maisto medžiagomis. Pagrindinės maisto medžiagos yra baltymai, angliavandeniai bei riebalai, kurie, norint užtikrinti gerą sveikatą, turi būti vartojami tam tikromis proporcijomis. Šios proporcijos priklauso ir nuo žmogaus gyvenimo būdo: aktyvesnis gyvenimo būdas reiškia didesnį energijos sunaudojimą ir didesnį jos poreikį.
Baltymai
Organizmas vartoja baltymus audiniams, pvz.: odai, raumenims, vidaus organams, plaukams ir nagams, auginti ir atstatyti. Baltymai sudaryti iš aminorūgščių.
Baltymai gaunami su gyvulinės ir augalinės kilmės maistu. Pagrindiniai pripažinti baltymų šaltiniai yra mėsa, pienas, kiaušiniai ir žuvis. Nemažai baltymų galima gauti su pupelėmis, riešutais, grūdiniais maisto produktais.
Vidutiniam suaugusiam žmogui per dieną reikia nuo 45 g (moterims) iki 53 g (vyrams) baltymų. Per didelis baltymų suvartojimas kenkia organizmui, nes padidėja alergijų pavojus, pasunkėja kepenų, inkstų veikla, sąnariuose gali kauptis druskos. Jei baltymų organizmas gauna nepakankamai, tai sumažėja atsparumas infekcinėms ligoms.
Angliavandeniai
Tai lengviausiai prieinamas energijos šaltinis. Pagal sveikos mitybos koncepciją, angliavandenių kiekis paros maisto racione turi būti keturis kartus didesnis nei baltymų, taip pat keturis kartus didesnis nei riebalų.
Maistas, kuriame gausu angliavandenių yra duona, grūdų produktai, bulvės.
Angliavandeniai – svarbūs ne tik kaip energijos šaltinis, bet jie yra audinių ir ląstelių sudėtyje.
Riebalai
Tai viena svarbiausių maisto medžiagų, kuri yra visų žmogaus organizmo ląstelių sudėtyje. Riebalai yra geras energijos šaltinis, dalyvauja termoreguliacijos procesuose, maistui suteikia juslines savybes (skonį, kvapą, spalvą), lėtina virškinimą, tuo būdu atitolina alkio jausmą. Su riebalais organizmas gauna ir riebaluose tirpių vitaminų – A, D, E, K bei pagerina šių vitaminų įsisavinimą.
Paprastai bendras suvartojamų riebalų kiekis turėtų būti apie 95 g per dieną vyrams ir 75 g moterims. Augalinės kilmės riebalai turėtų sudaryti vieną trečdalį, o gyvūninės – du trečdalius riebalinių produktų normos.
Vitaminai ir mineralinės medžiagos
Vitaminai yra maistingosios medžiagos, kurios yra ypač svarbios normaliam Jūsų organizmo funkcionavimui. Jie yra būtini sveikam vystymuisi, normaliai medžiagų apykaitai ir gyvybiškumui.
Mineralinės medžiagos taip pat yra labai svarbios ląstelių metabolizmui, fiziniam vystymuisi, nervinėms funkcijoms ir mąstymo procesams. Vitaminai be mineralinių medžiagų yra niekas – jie paprasčiausiai negali funkcionuoti be jų. Nepaprastai svarbu yra gauti pakankamą kiekį mineralinių medžiagų kiekvieną dieną, nes Jūsų organizmas negali jų pasigaminti pats.
Šių maistinių medžiagų organizmas gauna iš šviežių vaisių ir daržovių, riešutų, pupų, mėsos, žuvies. Subalansuotas maistas teikia visus organizmui reikalingus vitaminus bei mineralines medžiagas.
Teisinga mityba
Svarbu užtikrinti, kad valgomas įvairus maistas, siekiant išlaikyti žmogui rekomenduojamą santykį:
• Bent 40 % angliavandenių
• Apie 30 % baltymų
• Ne daugiau nei 30 % riebalų
Per dieną suvartojamo maisto kiekis, išreiškiamas kilokalorijomis (kcal) arba kilodžauliais (kJ), priklauso nuo žmogaus amžiaus, lyties ir gyvenimo būdo.
Mityba ir sveikata
Žmogaus sveikata yra glaudžiai susijusi su jo mityba. Netinkama mityba gali sukelti ar įtakoti trumpalaikius sutrikimus ar ilgalaikius susirgimus.
Maistinių medžiagų perteklius kaupiamas organizme riebalų pavidale ir sukelia nutukimą. Nutukimo sukeltos komplikacijos kai kuriose ekonomiškai išsivysčiusiose šalyse yra viena iš dažniausių mirties priežasčių (pvz., JAV yra antroji mirties priežastis po rūkymo sukeltų ligų).
Pusiausvyros nebuvimas tarp organizmo su maistu įgyjamos ir veikloje sunaudojamos energijos yra žalingas organizmui. Maistinių medžiagų trūkumas (badaujant arba valgant neįvairų maistą) gali baigtis sunkiomis ligomis.
http://lt.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mityba
http://www.imunitetas.lt/index.php?aid=3043
Mitai apie karjerą
Nors sakoma, kad prastas tas kareivis, kuris nenori tapti generolu, tačiau kasdieniame darbe šios taisyklės nebūtina taikyti: ne kiekvienam specialistui skirta tapti generaliniu direktoriumi. Beje, ne kiekvienas to ir trokšta.
Karjeros planavimas nėra kelionė traukiniu, kuomet aiškiai žinai, kada atvyksi į užsibrėžtą tikslą. Žinoma, karjerą planuoti reikia, nes tiek, kas nejuda pirmyn, netrunka apkiautėti. Tačiau neverta perlenkti lazdos. Galbūt keletas patarimų padės pažvelgti kitomis akimis, ko norite pasiekti darbe.
1. Nenuvertinkite savęs
Jei jūsų bendramoksliai ar kolegos kyla aukštyn karjeros laiptais, nepriimkite to kaip asmeninio įžeidimo. Svarbiausia, ar jūs esate pats patenkintas tuo, kuo užsiimate. Jei taip, tuomet netruksite tapti puikiu specialistu. O tai – ne mažesnis pasiekimas nei skambesnis titulas.
2. Karjera – tai ne tik kilimas pareigomis aukštyn
Horizontalioji karjera įgauna vis didesnę reikšmę. Jei jums pasiūlo dirbti kitame skyriuje – tai irgi įvertinimas, nesvarbu, kad nėra suteikiami „antpečiai“. Svarbiausia, kad taip galite įgauti naujos patirties, o ši didins jūsų vertę darbo rinkoje.
3. Nenusistatykite pernelyg ambicingų planų
Žinoma, tikslo nepasiek tie, kas jo pirmiausiai neužsibrėš. Tačiau pernelyg dideli reikalavimai sau ir lūkesčiai gali pakenkti. Jei esate nusprendę tapti skyriaus vadovu, sveikintina. Tačiau jei tikitės tai pasiekti tarkim, per metus – jau kelia nerimo. Ypač jei esate reiklus sau: tuomet neįgyvendinti tikslai gali kirsti per pasitikėjimą, trukdyti kasdieniams darbui, kenkti bendraujant su kolegomis, o tai pliusų neprideda.
4. Nemanykite, kad darbą galima rasti tik per pažįstamus
Viskas priklauso nuo jūsų paties iniciatyvumo ir kompetencijų. Tačiau dalis tiesos tame, jog pažįstami padeda susirasti darbą, yra. Būtent jie gali jus informuoti apie vakansiją arba rekomenduoti galimam darbdaviui.
Šiais laikais tokios draugų ir pažįstamų pagalbos galimybes dar labiau išplečia socialiniai tinklai. Jei savo CV įrašysite Facebook ar panašiuose tinklalapiuose bei savo bičiuliams ten pranešite, kad ieškote naujo darbo, tikimybė gauti pasiūlymą sustiprės. Tiesa, reikia būti atsargiems ir nedėti tokios informacijos, kurios nepageidautumėte, jog išvystų darbdavys.
5. Viršvalandžiai nėra privalomi siekiantiems karjeros
Klaidinga manyti, jog tie, kas darbe užsisėdi iki išnaktų, yra patys geriausi ir lojaliausi darbuotojai. Aišku, pakilti tą pačią minutę, kai tik baigiasi darbo laikas ir mesti neužbaigtus darbus – nėra sveikintina, tačiau kasdien grįžti namo su tamsa gali arba tikri darboholikai, arba nemokantys planuotis laiko.
Darbdaviui paprastai nėra svarbu, per kiek jūs pasiekiate rezultatų – jam aktualiausia, kad jie būtų pasiekti ir tenkintų vadovybę.
www.cv.lt
Karjeros planavimas nėra kelionė traukiniu, kuomet aiškiai žinai, kada atvyksi į užsibrėžtą tikslą. Žinoma, karjerą planuoti reikia, nes tiek, kas nejuda pirmyn, netrunka apkiautėti. Tačiau neverta perlenkti lazdos. Galbūt keletas patarimų padės pažvelgti kitomis akimis, ko norite pasiekti darbe.
1. Nenuvertinkite savęs
Jei jūsų bendramoksliai ar kolegos kyla aukštyn karjeros laiptais, nepriimkite to kaip asmeninio įžeidimo. Svarbiausia, ar jūs esate pats patenkintas tuo, kuo užsiimate. Jei taip, tuomet netruksite tapti puikiu specialistu. O tai – ne mažesnis pasiekimas nei skambesnis titulas.
2. Karjera – tai ne tik kilimas pareigomis aukštyn
Horizontalioji karjera įgauna vis didesnę reikšmę. Jei jums pasiūlo dirbti kitame skyriuje – tai irgi įvertinimas, nesvarbu, kad nėra suteikiami „antpečiai“. Svarbiausia, kad taip galite įgauti naujos patirties, o ši didins jūsų vertę darbo rinkoje.
3. Nenusistatykite pernelyg ambicingų planų
Žinoma, tikslo nepasiek tie, kas jo pirmiausiai neužsibrėš. Tačiau pernelyg dideli reikalavimai sau ir lūkesčiai gali pakenkti. Jei esate nusprendę tapti skyriaus vadovu, sveikintina. Tačiau jei tikitės tai pasiekti tarkim, per metus – jau kelia nerimo. Ypač jei esate reiklus sau: tuomet neįgyvendinti tikslai gali kirsti per pasitikėjimą, trukdyti kasdieniams darbui, kenkti bendraujant su kolegomis, o tai pliusų neprideda.
4. Nemanykite, kad darbą galima rasti tik per pažįstamus
Viskas priklauso nuo jūsų paties iniciatyvumo ir kompetencijų. Tačiau dalis tiesos tame, jog pažįstami padeda susirasti darbą, yra. Būtent jie gali jus informuoti apie vakansiją arba rekomenduoti galimam darbdaviui.
Šiais laikais tokios draugų ir pažįstamų pagalbos galimybes dar labiau išplečia socialiniai tinklai. Jei savo CV įrašysite Facebook ar panašiuose tinklalapiuose bei savo bičiuliams ten pranešite, kad ieškote naujo darbo, tikimybė gauti pasiūlymą sustiprės. Tiesa, reikia būti atsargiems ir nedėti tokios informacijos, kurios nepageidautumėte, jog išvystų darbdavys.
5. Viršvalandžiai nėra privalomi siekiantiems karjeros
Klaidinga manyti, jog tie, kas darbe užsisėdi iki išnaktų, yra patys geriausi ir lojaliausi darbuotojai. Aišku, pakilti tą pačią minutę, kai tik baigiasi darbo laikas ir mesti neužbaigtus darbus – nėra sveikintina, tačiau kasdien grįžti namo su tamsa gali arba tikri darboholikai, arba nemokantys planuotis laiko.
Darbdaviui paprastai nėra svarbu, per kiek jūs pasiekiate rezultatų – jam aktualiausia, kad jie būtų pasiekti ir tenkintų vadovybę.
www.cv.lt
Thursday, March 17, 2011
Įsitikinimai/Veiksmai/Rezultatai
Sveiki,
naujus metus pradedame su naujais įsitikinimais, tad papasakosime kaip įsitikinimai yra susiję su kitais dalykais Jūsų gyvenimuose. Įsivaizduokite paprastą lygiašonį trikampį. Kairiajame kampe yra įsitikinimai, viršutiniame kampe veiksmai, dešiniajame kampe - rezultatai. Taigi įsitikinimai, nuostatos, intelektas įtakoja veiksmus, veiksmai įtakoja rezultatus, o rezultatai grįžta ir įtakoja įsitikinimus. Viskas prasideda nuo kairiojo kampo ir sukasi pagal laikrodžio rodyklę.
Jei netikite, kad galite kažką padaryti (kairysis kampas - įsitikinimai), tuomet darote labai nedaug veiksmų (viršutinis kampas). Darote nedaug veiksmų, gaunate labai mažai rezultatų (dešinysis kampas). Gavę mažai rezultatų dar labiau susilpninate savo įsitikinimus, nes mažiau tikite, jog galite kažką padaryti. Susilpnėję įsitikinimai dar labiau mažina veiksmų kiekį, su mažiau veiksmų, gaunate dar mažiau rezultatų. Ir taip ratas sukasi neigiama kryptimi, kol galiausiai nustojate daryti veiksmus.
Atitinkamai, jei stiprinate teigiamus įsitikinimus, darote pratimus, vizualizuojate, analizuojate ribojančius įsitikinimus ir juos šalinate, pradedate daryti daugiau veiksmų, kuo daugiau veiksmų, tuo daugiau rezultatų gaunate. Geresni rezultatai sustiprina įsitikinimus ir darote dar daugiau veiksmų.
Visa ko pradžia yra įsitikinimai. Dažnai tenka girdėti sakant „iš sporto nepragyvensi“, „iš meno nepragyvensi“, „iš sąžiningo darbo nepragyvensi“ ir t.t. Jei galvoje yra įsitikinimas „iš meno nepragyvensi“, tai niekuomet ir nepragyvensi, nes šis įsitikinimas net neveda prie veiksmų. Kokius veiksmus imsis daryti žmogus, kuris jau iš anksto yra nusprendęs, jog iš to jis neuždirbs? Nebus veiksmų, žinoma, jog nebus ir rezultato.
Linkime, jog 2011 metai būtų naujų ir gerų įsitikinimo formavimo metai. Kad mūsų teigiamos ir pozityvios mintys vestų link veiksmų, o jei darysime veiksmus, neišvengiamai gausime rezultatus, nes kitaip paprasčiausiai nebūna.
success.lt
naujus metus pradedame su naujais įsitikinimais, tad papasakosime kaip įsitikinimai yra susiję su kitais dalykais Jūsų gyvenimuose. Įsivaizduokite paprastą lygiašonį trikampį. Kairiajame kampe yra įsitikinimai, viršutiniame kampe veiksmai, dešiniajame kampe - rezultatai. Taigi įsitikinimai, nuostatos, intelektas įtakoja veiksmus, veiksmai įtakoja rezultatus, o rezultatai grįžta ir įtakoja įsitikinimus. Viskas prasideda nuo kairiojo kampo ir sukasi pagal laikrodžio rodyklę.
Jei netikite, kad galite kažką padaryti (kairysis kampas - įsitikinimai), tuomet darote labai nedaug veiksmų (viršutinis kampas). Darote nedaug veiksmų, gaunate labai mažai rezultatų (dešinysis kampas). Gavę mažai rezultatų dar labiau susilpninate savo įsitikinimus, nes mažiau tikite, jog galite kažką padaryti. Susilpnėję įsitikinimai dar labiau mažina veiksmų kiekį, su mažiau veiksmų, gaunate dar mažiau rezultatų. Ir taip ratas sukasi neigiama kryptimi, kol galiausiai nustojate daryti veiksmus.
Atitinkamai, jei stiprinate teigiamus įsitikinimus, darote pratimus, vizualizuojate, analizuojate ribojančius įsitikinimus ir juos šalinate, pradedate daryti daugiau veiksmų, kuo daugiau veiksmų, tuo daugiau rezultatų gaunate. Geresni rezultatai sustiprina įsitikinimus ir darote dar daugiau veiksmų.
Visa ko pradžia yra įsitikinimai. Dažnai tenka girdėti sakant „iš sporto nepragyvensi“, „iš meno nepragyvensi“, „iš sąžiningo darbo nepragyvensi“ ir t.t. Jei galvoje yra įsitikinimas „iš meno nepragyvensi“, tai niekuomet ir nepragyvensi, nes šis įsitikinimas net neveda prie veiksmų. Kokius veiksmus imsis daryti žmogus, kuris jau iš anksto yra nusprendęs, jog iš to jis neuždirbs? Nebus veiksmų, žinoma, jog nebus ir rezultato.
Linkime, jog 2011 metai būtų naujų ir gerų įsitikinimo formavimo metai. Kad mūsų teigiamos ir pozityvios mintys vestų link veiksmų, o jei darysime veiksmus, neišvengiamai gausime rezultatus, nes kitaip paprasčiausiai nebūna.
success.lt
Sunday, March 6, 2011
Кислород
По некоторым исследованиям, кислород забирает жизнь. В прошлых столетиях люди жили короче, неужели современная загрязненность атмосферы продлевает нашу жизнь!?
Секретные Истории по Рен ТВ
Секретные Истории по Рен ТВ
Mokslai
Tikslieji mokslai - mokslai, kurie remiasi matematika.
Socialiniai mokslai, kartais dar visuomenės mokslai (angl. social sciences) – visi mokslai, kurie teoriškai ir empiriškai tiria žmonių tarpusavio santykius visuomenėje. Nagrinėjama socialinių sistemų struktūra ir funkcijos, taip pat šių sistemų sąveika su atskirais individais.
Socialiniai mokslai:
* psichologija - tiria žmogaus sąmonę ir elgesį;
* sociologija – žmonių visuomenę ir žmonių santykius joje;
* politikos mokslas arba politologija - tiria grupių ir valstybių valdymą;
* ekonomika - tiria gamybą ir turto paskirstymą visuomenėje;
* komunikacijų mokslas - tiria socialinę komunikaciją (pranešimų srautus visuomenėje).
Humanitariniai mokslai - mokslas apie žmogų ir kultūrą, t.y. vienas iš mokslų: filosofija, teologija, menotyra (architektūra, dailėtyra, muzikologija, teatrologija), filologija (kalbotyra, literatūrologija), istorija, komunikacija ir informacija (komunikacija, informacija, bibliotekininkystė, knygotyra), etnologija (folkloristika)
Gamtos mokslas – natūralistinis visatos, suprantamos kaip paklūstančios natūralaus atsiradimo dėsniams, tyrinėjimas.
* Fizika – mokslas, siekiantis suprasti pagrindines sąvokas, tokias kaip jėga, energija, masė ir krūvis. Tai gamtos analizavimas, siekiant suvokti, kaip elgiasi mus supantis pasaulis ir Visata.
* Astronomija – disciplina, apimanti reiškinių, esančių už Žemės ir jos atmosferos, stebėjimą ir aiškinimą. Astronomija tiria objektų, kuriuos galime stebėti danguje (ir kurie yra už Žemės ribų), kilmę, vystymąsi, fizikinės ir cheminės savybes.
* Chemija – disciplina apie cheminius elementus bei jų sudaromų vieninių ir sudėtinių medžiagų struktūras, savybes ir kitimus, vykstančius cheminių reakcijų metu.
* Biologija – disciplina, tirianti gyvąją gamtą, jos reiškinius.
* Žemės mokslas – terminas, naudojamas įvairioms mokslo šakoms apie Žemę, apibrėžti. Yra keturios Žemės mokslo disciplinos:
o geodezija
o geofizika
o geografija
o geologija
* Tarpdisciplininiai mokslai - ne visada yra aiškus skirtumas tarp gamtos mokslo disciplinų ir kartais jos dalinasi tais pačiais bruožais. Pvz.:
o Biologija:
+ Astrobiologija
+ Biofizika
+ Bionika
*
o Chemija:
+ Astrochemija
+ Biochemija
+ Geochemija
*
o Fizika:
+ Astrofizika
+ Fizikinė chemija
+ Geofizika
Menai - viena iš svarbiausių kultūros dalių, sudaryta iš daugybės disciplinų. Ši sąvoka yra platesnė nei "menas", kuri dažniausiai suprantama, kaip vizualiniai menai (dailė, architektūra ar amatai). Menai apima vaizduojamąjį meną, literatūrą, scenos menus, taip pat muziką, kiną, šokį, ir net madą.
Konkrečiai apibrėžti visų sričių, kurios telpa į sąvoką menai, sudėtinga, bet dėl šių niekas neabejoja:
* Vaidyba
* Architektūra
* Kaligrafija
* Konceptualus menas
* Amatai
* Kulinarija
* Šokis
* Dekoratyviniai menai
* Dizainas
* Piešimas
* Mada
* Kinas
* Grafika
* Ikebana
* Išradimai
* Kalba
* Literatūra
* Muzika
* Kovos menai
* Opera
* Operetė
* Origami
* Tapyba
* Performansas
* Fotografija
* Poezija
* Skulptūra
* Teatras
* Filmuota medžiaga
* Vizualiniai menai
Kūno kultūra – svarbi bendrosios asmens ir visuomenės kultūros dalis, glaudžiai susijusi su kitomis jos sritimis, ypač su sveikatos stiprinimu ir sportu. Ji padeda siekti fizinės, psichinės ir dvasinės asmens darnos, stiprina įvairaus amžiaus žmonių sveikatą. Kūno kultūra atveria galimybę patirti išlavinto, stipraus, sveiko organizmo, kūno judesių grožio keliamą džiaugsmą, kuria prielaidas asmens saviraiškai ir savirealizacijai. Apimdama įvairias fizinio aktyvumo raiškos formas, kūno kultūra sudaro sąlygas asmeniui pažinti save ir ugdytis fizinę bei dvasinę ištvermę, reikalingą stresinėse, kritinėse situacijose, individualumą, tikėjimą sėkme siekiant fizinės ir dvasinės sveikatos.
//wikipedia, vikizodynas & google//
Socialiniai mokslai, kartais dar visuomenės mokslai (angl. social sciences) – visi mokslai, kurie teoriškai ir empiriškai tiria žmonių tarpusavio santykius visuomenėje. Nagrinėjama socialinių sistemų struktūra ir funkcijos, taip pat šių sistemų sąveika su atskirais individais.
Socialiniai mokslai:
* psichologija - tiria žmogaus sąmonę ir elgesį;
* sociologija – žmonių visuomenę ir žmonių santykius joje;
* politikos mokslas arba politologija - tiria grupių ir valstybių valdymą;
* ekonomika - tiria gamybą ir turto paskirstymą visuomenėje;
* komunikacijų mokslas - tiria socialinę komunikaciją (pranešimų srautus visuomenėje).
Humanitariniai mokslai - mokslas apie žmogų ir kultūrą, t.y. vienas iš mokslų: filosofija, teologija, menotyra (architektūra, dailėtyra, muzikologija, teatrologija), filologija (kalbotyra, literatūrologija), istorija, komunikacija ir informacija (komunikacija, informacija, bibliotekininkystė, knygotyra), etnologija (folkloristika)
Gamtos mokslas – natūralistinis visatos, suprantamos kaip paklūstančios natūralaus atsiradimo dėsniams, tyrinėjimas.
* Fizika – mokslas, siekiantis suprasti pagrindines sąvokas, tokias kaip jėga, energija, masė ir krūvis. Tai gamtos analizavimas, siekiant suvokti, kaip elgiasi mus supantis pasaulis ir Visata.
* Astronomija – disciplina, apimanti reiškinių, esančių už Žemės ir jos atmosferos, stebėjimą ir aiškinimą. Astronomija tiria objektų, kuriuos galime stebėti danguje (ir kurie yra už Žemės ribų), kilmę, vystymąsi, fizikinės ir cheminės savybes.
* Chemija – disciplina apie cheminius elementus bei jų sudaromų vieninių ir sudėtinių medžiagų struktūras, savybes ir kitimus, vykstančius cheminių reakcijų metu.
* Biologija – disciplina, tirianti gyvąją gamtą, jos reiškinius.
* Žemės mokslas – terminas, naudojamas įvairioms mokslo šakoms apie Žemę, apibrėžti. Yra keturios Žemės mokslo disciplinos:
o geodezija
o geofizika
o geografija
o geologija
* Tarpdisciplininiai mokslai - ne visada yra aiškus skirtumas tarp gamtos mokslo disciplinų ir kartais jos dalinasi tais pačiais bruožais. Pvz.:
o Biologija:
+ Astrobiologija
+ Biofizika
+ Bionika
*
o Chemija:
+ Astrochemija
+ Biochemija
+ Geochemija
*
o Fizika:
+ Astrofizika
+ Fizikinė chemija
+ Geofizika
Menai - viena iš svarbiausių kultūros dalių, sudaryta iš daugybės disciplinų. Ši sąvoka yra platesnė nei "menas", kuri dažniausiai suprantama, kaip vizualiniai menai (dailė, architektūra ar amatai). Menai apima vaizduojamąjį meną, literatūrą, scenos menus, taip pat muziką, kiną, šokį, ir net madą.
Konkrečiai apibrėžti visų sričių, kurios telpa į sąvoką menai, sudėtinga, bet dėl šių niekas neabejoja:
* Vaidyba
* Architektūra
* Kaligrafija
* Konceptualus menas
* Amatai
* Kulinarija
* Šokis
* Dekoratyviniai menai
* Dizainas
* Piešimas
* Mada
* Kinas
* Grafika
* Ikebana
* Išradimai
* Kalba
* Literatūra
* Muzika
* Kovos menai
* Opera
* Operetė
* Origami
* Tapyba
* Performansas
* Fotografija
* Poezija
* Skulptūra
* Teatras
* Filmuota medžiaga
* Vizualiniai menai
Kūno kultūra – svarbi bendrosios asmens ir visuomenės kultūros dalis, glaudžiai susijusi su kitomis jos sritimis, ypač su sveikatos stiprinimu ir sportu. Ji padeda siekti fizinės, psichinės ir dvasinės asmens darnos, stiprina įvairaus amžiaus žmonių sveikatą. Kūno kultūra atveria galimybę patirti išlavinto, stipraus, sveiko organizmo, kūno judesių grožio keliamą džiaugsmą, kuria prielaidas asmens saviraiškai ir savirealizacijai. Apimdama įvairias fizinio aktyvumo raiškos formas, kūno kultūra sudaro sąlygas asmeniui pažinti save ir ugdytis fizinę bei dvasinę ištvermę, reikalingą stresinėse, kritinėse situacijose, individualumą, tikėjimą sėkme siekiant fizinės ir dvasinės sveikatos.
//wikipedia, vikizodynas & google//
Never Back Down
Never Back Down
Genre: Action
Directed by: Jeff Wadlow
Written by: Chris Hauty
Starring: Dijimon Hounsou, Amber Heard, Sean Faris, Carn Gigandet, Leslie Hope
Release Date: March 14, 2008
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Zzb7um_40Zk
Kvėpavimas. Kvėpavimas su kiekvienu smūgiu/šuoliu.
Aerobiniai ir anaerobiniai pratimai.
Genre: Action
Directed by: Jeff Wadlow
Written by: Chris Hauty
Starring: Dijimon Hounsou, Amber Heard, Sean Faris, Carn Gigandet, Leslie Hope
Release Date: March 14, 2008
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Zzb7um_40Zk
Kvėpavimas. Kvėpavimas su kiekvienu smūgiu/šuoliu.
Aerobiniai ir anaerobiniai pratimai.
Changes
Be ready for changes, let go old feeling of stability.
Don't be attached to the past. Past thinking. Past state of your emotions. Past you.
It is easier to change then.
Don't be attached to the past. Past thinking. Past state of your emotions. Past you.
It is easier to change then.
Pinigų Afirmacija
Aš pritraukiu pinigus.
Pinigai ateina pas mane.
Pinigus galima gauti lengvai.
Netolimoje ateityje aš turėsiu santaupas.
Pinigai ateina pas mane.
Pinigus galima gauti lengvai.
Netolimoje ateityje aš turėsiu santaupas.
Saturday, March 5, 2011
Palmiros horoskopas ketvirtadieniui, kovo 3 d.
Šiandien kylantis Mėnulio mazgas įeina į Šaulio ženklą, kuriuo judės iki 2012 m. rugpjūčio 31 d. Kylantis Mėnulio mazgas nurodo reikalingą gyvenimo kryptį. Kai kylantis Mėnulio mazgas Šaulyje, taps svarbu įsisąmoninti visuomenėje vyraujančius moralinius principus, ugdyti socialinę atsakomybę už kitus visuomenės narius. Tarnavimas visuomenės labui, pareigų atlikimas pasirinktai religijai bus labai svarbūs dėl asmeninės brandos.
Kol kylantis Mėnulio mazgas judės Šaulio ženklu, sustiprės užsienio kelionių poreikis. Gali sustiprėti emigracijos poreikis, ir norintiems išvykti, lengviau adaptuotis svečiuose kraštuose tai bus tinkamas laikas. Darbas, studijos užsienyje dabar bus naudingesnės nei paprastai. Tokia kylančio Mėnulio mazgo padėtis skatins ir didesnį domėjimąsi svetimomis kultūromis, religijomis ir religija apskritai. Būtent dabar gali atsirasti tikrasis pašaukimas eiti dvasios vadovo keliu. Dabar išryškėja tikrieji guru.
http://www.lrytas.lt/-12990953671297997056-palmiros-horoskopas-ketvirtadieniui-kovo-3-d.htm
Kol kylantis Mėnulio mazgas judės Šaulio ženklu, sustiprės užsienio kelionių poreikis. Gali sustiprėti emigracijos poreikis, ir norintiems išvykti, lengviau adaptuotis svečiuose kraštuose tai bus tinkamas laikas. Darbas, studijos užsienyje dabar bus naudingesnės nei paprastai. Tokia kylančio Mėnulio mazgo padėtis skatins ir didesnį domėjimąsi svetimomis kultūromis, religijomis ir religija apskritai. Būtent dabar gali atsirasti tikrasis pašaukimas eiti dvasios vadovo keliu. Dabar išryškėja tikrieji guru.
http://www.lrytas.lt/-12990953671297997056-palmiros-horoskopas-ketvirtadieniui-kovo-3-d.htm
Sunday, February 27, 2011
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